<p>Sometimes, a girl may try to do be a small favor - e.g. getting me a poster, a handout, etc. I always say "no" because I don't want to trouble her, but this seems to have the effect of turning them off. I remember one time I said "no" to someone and she has never talked to me since. I wasn't like "NO," I said "no, thanks" with a polite smile. Another time I was like "no," the girl was like "OMG I'm sorry" ... :(. </p>
<p>Should I say "yes" instead?</p>
<p>Yeah, you should probably say yes and thank them when they do the little task for you.</p>
<p>It reminds me of when I offer food, like say gummy bears (not when I’m trying to get rid of it) and the person who I offer to says no. I feel bad because I want them to enjoy the gummy bears I give them because it makes me feel better that I gave someone something they liked. I think this analogy is applicable here. When you say no, you deprive people who offer to help the opportunity to feel helpful.</p>
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<p>Yo, that was deep :). I think I’m being too Asian - too “polite” - if you know what I mean …</p>
<p>I think you shouldn’t limit yourself to one-word responses :).</p>
<p>So they’re just offering to get you something when they’re already going up to get it anyway? It’s really menial task that people do for each other all the time, and just saying “no thanks” is a weird response. It makes them think “does he hate me or something? Or maybe he’s just weird.” You can say “no thanks, I don’t want to be a burden,” in which case she’ll probably say “nbd” and get it for you anyway. The end.</p>
<p>Tell her no means yes</p>