<p>after reading all most of these threads im starting to get really scared about the social scene at ucla. in high school i had 4 really close best friends ive had since middle school and i spent most of high school with them. so far im the only one from my high school attending ucla and im starting to get really nervous that im gonna somehow get excluded from all the cliques and be friendless for four years? i'm a pretty outgoing person but ive never been a partier and consider myself a pretty big nerd. is there anyone who can ease my nerves? is ucla just like high school all over again with all the cliques???? am i going to be able to meet people even if i dont know anyone at orientation? is the campus really that segregated?
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<p>Well I am going to be a freshman as well but basically EVERYONE will feel the same way. Even if there are people who'll have some friends from HS at UCLA, it's not like they want to go through all 4 years knowing like 3 people. I don't even think it's possible to NOT make new friends, or at the very least meet people. And for me at least, whenever I think about the friends I have now, I'm not exactly sure how I met them, it just sort of happened. I'm kind of nervous too but don't stress out--everyone's in the same boat.</p>
<p>i had 13 other people from my high school come here this year.
...and yet, i wasn't really friends with any of them, just knew them through classes. so we say hi when we see each other, and eat together sometimes, and that's about it.
so, all of your friends will be people that you meet here. that's how it is with everybody, even people who DO have some friends they already knew. you'll meet people through your floor, mainly, and then through your classes/major, and any groups you join. i have a fairly tight circle of friends now that i've found, and none of them are high school friends.
you don't need to be a partier, and you don't need to stress about the campus being "segregated". sure, cliques happen, but there are SO many people out there, you're going to befriend some of them. just let the opportunities happen: speak to your classmates, join a couple clubs, take a class at wooden, and keep the door to your room open when you're in there. you never know who you'll meet!</p>
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so far im the only one from my high school attending ucla and im starting to get really nervous that im gonna somehow get excluded from all the cliques and be friendless for four years?
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Hello. I was the only one from my school who went to UCLA. It is not a big deal. Sure people have their old friends but there are plenty of new ones to make. You'll have all kinds of random people on your floor. You'll join clubs/organizations. You'll meet new people if you try. It's not like there are rigid cliques or anything or that people move in packs that had started in high school. Please don't worry.
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i'm a pretty outgoing person but ive never been a partier and consider myself a pretty big nerd. is there anyone who can ease my nerves?
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You don't have to go to parties if you don't want to. No one is making you do anything and there is no pressure in participating in such activities. There are other ways besides parties to make friends and socialize. This school has plenty of nerdy people too. (Try the ENIGMA group -- science fiction, horror, etc.)
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is ucla just like high school all over again with all the cliques??
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Well, people do tend to hang out with similar people. You'll see the recruited athletes hanging out with each other. You'll notice frat/sorority people with each other. You won't feel excluded and you will find a good set of associates/friends if you try.
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am i going to be able to meet people even if i dont know anyone at orientation?
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Yes. By the way, most of your friends in college will most likely NOT come from Orientation. I have only kept one friend from Orientation and I introduced myself to a number of people. I added some on Facebook but later deleted them. Don't worry about making friends at Orientation and then maintaining them. Sure it's good to make new friends but there are so many more opportunities besides Orientation.
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is the campus really that segregated?
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What Liyana said. :p</p>
<p>As long as you put in the effort, you will be absolutely fine. :)</p>
<p>join clubs and you'll make friends. i promise</p>
<p>go kill a trojan (john david booty or OJ Mayo in particular) and im sure ull have alot of friends in no time : )</p>
<p>it works itself out, and bruinboy will be your friend.</p>
<p>^ what flong said LOL!!</p>
<p>flong did you get UCLA?</p>
<p>unfortunately no. its okay hahah im over it though. Im waiting on my Michigan deferral. if thats a no, then its UCSD -shrug-</p>
<p>If youre asian do not worry, Join an asian group and low and behold your all asian social group for the next 4 years. </p>
<p>If youre white, it wont be as much of a problem since there are a good amount of white people though it might be more of a problem to make more friends if you don't like black or hispanic people becuz if your not asian the asians will never want to be your friend. You might get to the aquaintance phase with one or 2 of them but never the good friend phase, especially if you don't speak their language.</p>
<p>If your hispanic, your screwed but not that much, u can make white friends, and hispanic friends, and a black friend from the few that you see.</p>
<p>If your black.......ur fu***d.</p>
<p>:rolleyes: Ignore Kenshinsan. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>Jeez kenshinsan. You can make friends with other ethnicities, yknow.</p>
<p>right, take kenshinman's advice becasue he definately goes here..</p>
<p>thanks guys. i was just having a weak moment because i realized im moving away and i cant take my best friends with me. i feel better now.....=)</p>
<p>btw im hispanic but have lots of white friends so i think ill be ok
lol</p>
<p>ktcv,</p>
<p>You'll make plenty of friends. I'm not a huge partier, and I have around 7 or 8 friends I regularly keep in touch with to this day. Congrats on your admission!</p>