<p>Cheers, I wasn't going to jump into this thread, but your post made me want to ask a question. My H and I were prepared to pay full tuition to a private college, as we allowed my D to apply ED. She was unexpectedly offered a merit scholarship there (awarded to the top 20% of admitted students). Apparently, her case is not one of "buying" SAT scores while the rest of her "package" being a "mixed bag of potential" as her SAT scores are only 20 points over the average for admitted students to her school, with her math score actually very close to, but slightly below, the average. I believe that it is more like her interview, grades, activities, academic interests,and recommendations demonstrated to the school that she is the type of student who would be awarded a merit scholarship if she had applied RD, so they gave it to her even though she was ED and bound to attend. Apparently their selection criteria are not based solely on raising the SAT average of their school. </p>
<p>We are not rich but were prepared to pay full tuition for her, as we have not lived beyond our means, I have worked full time since my kids were small, and we have only two kids. We were very proud of her when she was accepted and awarded her scholarship, but all of these discussions are making me feel like my family is somehow part of some sleazy marketing scheme which harms disadvantaged students. </p>
<p>I should add that my son, who is three years older than my D, earned an incredible number of academic awards and recognitions when he was a senior, including a one time $2500 National Merit Scholarship from the National Merit Corporation (but not a merit scholarship from his school, his school doesn't give any, we are paying full freight for him), and this prestigious award from the school which my daughter had selected as her first choice made her feel that she is also a meritorious student.</p>
<p>Under the circumstances, do you feel we should have declined the award or feel guilty for accepting it?</p>
<p>PS My husband and I are also both professionals with degrees from a private university, and I guess we are successful, too, depending on your definition of success. Our combined income is about 20% more than that of two school teachers in our district who are both at the top teacher salary level, if that puts it into perspective.</p>