Seems like just yesterday....

Colleges and Universities A-Z Yale University
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<p>that some of us logged on to our eli accounts and found out we were deferred; at the same time, others were still working on their applications....</p>

<p>now we are a mere 7 days from the FINAL decisions! aaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhh</p>

<p>To my fellow "deferees," how are you approaching this decision day differently from December 15th? </p>

<p>I, for one, am much less stressed out about YALE itself and just generally anxious about all the colleges I will be hearing from. And, for the first time in 7-8 months, I am thinking that if I don't get in to Yale, I will be okay. Before, it was like I HAD to get in and it was the only way I could see my life going and yada yada yada</p>

<p>Also, I have decided to save Yale's decision for last, by waiting for an envelope in the mail. After logging on in December and wanting so badly to see the dancing/singing bulldog, and then being absolutely crushed, I just can't go through that again. For Yale, anyway. I will be checking my Harvard, Princeton, Dartmouth, Williams, Wesleyan decisions online. And then I will sit tight.
With any luck, I'll get a fat envelope by April 4th-5th, and can then go online and see my special bulldog thing (they keep it up for a few days right?)!</p>

<p>Anyone else want to prolong their hope by waiting for snail mail?</p>

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<p>I understand you
but i will still go for the online decision
makes me feel better</p>

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<p>For real...</p>

<p>The size of the envelope tells all and that ruins the surprise... or kills you early.</p>

<p>Whatever... Pick your poison.</p>

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<p>I'm going online as well, I couldn't stand waiting. With that being said, I agree that this decision doesn't seem as gut-wrenching as it was on December 15th. Of course I still love Yale and would still definitely consider going if I got in, being deferred has helped me realize that there are other colleges out there, and that maybe I'm a better fit at a few different colleges. I've decided that I'm gonna check this one first, because I don't think being deferred is a good sign and am honestly planning on being rejected, so I want to get it out of the way and then pray that I got in to Penn.</p>

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<p>I was thinking about making this thread, but decided against it for fear of seeming like a loser lol. I too have moved on from being a depressed deferree. I've gotten into some amazing schools (Dartmouth, Williams, WashU, Kenyon, Wesleyan, and a few others) and have also received a fabulous full-ride to Northeastern, which is where I'll probably end up. It's funny to try and remember myself way back when in December when I'd be on this forum until 1 AM every night...</p>

<p>Having experienced the feeling of being accepted 8 times now and knowing almost 99% what school I am going to be at in the fall feels amazing. I never thought I'd be this satisfied with the college application process after being deferred from Yale. I never thought I'd like any other school. Slowly, but surely, I was able to move forward. First, I stopped crying myself to sleep on my pillow of Yale admissions literature :), then I applied to more schools to make myself feel better, and then I got invited to one scholarship weekend, then another, then I got into Maryland, and I knew I would be going to college. Now that I'm resting easy on my laurels, I can look back and see that my dad (as usual) was right when he said that "It's no small feat to be deferred from Yale". Although maybe I wasn't "good enough" to get into Yale early, I'm just right for many other schools. I fell in love with numerous LAC's, which maybe are a better choice for me than a large uni like Yale is. I got a surprise full ride from one of my safeties, and began to realize the value of money in this economy, something I possibly never would have been able to do with bulldog-shaped cataracts in my wide Yale-obsessed eyes. </p>

<p>This has been a great journey, and a real learning experience. For the first time, I had to wrangle with a huge rejection, and I think I handled it well. I'm glad that I was deferred...I had much more time to look at my other options in an unbiased light, and to appreciate each and every one of those acceptances, especially after seeing really sad things on other CC boards and with my classmates. I got to visit 2 more schools for free (and another tommorow morning!), opportunities I wouldn't have taken if I had gotten into Yale, because, well, why visit an unranked LAC or a school in the middle of nowhere when you're into Yale? I fell in love with California and danced in the snow in Ohio and met amazing people and kind admissions officers (I didn't think they existed). </p>

<p>I stopped going on CC as much and just talked to my friends about how I felt. I hung out with people instead of writing introspective essays. After I got deferred from Yale, I got my life back.</p>

<p>I'm not going to wait for the mail. I'm not going click 2048249 times at 5:00 3/31. I'm not going to skip class just to see if they put them up early. I'm not going to post overexcitedly on a CC countdown thread. I'm simply going to check my decision. And I don't know what I'll do if I get in, or if I don't. I'm not going to ask my mom to buy sparking cider again (lol) or to have tissues ready. Simply put, Yale is not getting any more of my time, passion, and energy unless I end up matriculating in the fall. I'm going to check my decision, and whatever it is, I'm going to accept it, and move forward with my life. Because right now, I'm nearly 18, I'm into college, it's almost spring break, and my life is great.</p>

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<p>First of all, you better not be calling me a loser. </p>

<p>Second of all, that was a great post. Very well-put, and very intelligent. Congratulations on everything!</p>

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<p>Well put princessbell I had a similiar experience. I realize ivy league is way too over played</p>

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<p>excellent princessbell. you made me rethink some things. :) i think ill be a little bit more calm when im checking my decisions.</p>

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<p>@princess...</p>

<p><em>lifts glass of sparkling cider in admiration</em></p>

<p>best of luck and congrats on your acceptances!</p>

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<p>^^^haha, i remember my mom bought sparkling cider on my insistence (as i briefly mentioned) and after the deferral she still wanted to do a toast (while i was still crying lol) and after she left the room i threw the entire glass away lol.</p>

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<p>also, is it just me or is the RD group as a whole a lot more anxious and generally strange than the EA group? I don't remember anyone of us doing sarcastic posts lol...maybe it's because they've waited since January?</p>

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<p>^ Haha, perhaps. Sarcasm is much harder to translate online, though.
Your words were so true and uplifting to read. I'm so glad you've been able to move away from your Yale deferral. I myself have had a similar experience. I just got into my second-choice school today, but I have no news on financial aid right now. I'm hoping for the best, and congratulations on your achievements!</p>

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<p>Princess, one more thing, I'm wagerin you're IN this round -- seems like the deferral was just that - a wrinkle in time - Stock up on the sparkling cider (bubbly ... great idea by the way lol).</p>

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<p>Do deferred applicants have about the same shot percentage-wise with RD kids? As in... 7ish this year?</p>

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<p>"seems like just yesterday, you were a part of me... I used to stand so tall I used to be so strong; now all that's left of me is what I pretend to be, sewn together but so broken up inside... now I can't breathe, no I can't speak, I'm barely hanging on...."</p>

<p>That's the first thing I thought of when I saw this thread title. Apologies if I butchered the lyrics.</p>

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<p>"...here i am, once again, I'm torn into pieces, can't deny it, can't pretend, just thought you were the one...broken up deep inside.."</p>

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<p>Haha. The song came in my mind too when I read the title :P</p>

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<p>"The size of the envelope tells all and that ruins the surprise... or kills you early."</p>

<p>I actually kind of remember the acceptance letter being in a normal sized envelope and everything else coming a day or two later. Someone else will have to confirm this... maybe I have a bad memory.</p>

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<p>"Size doesn't matter"</p>

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<p>Haha. </p>

<p>You would feel bad though if you got a normal envelope, as opposed to a larger sized one.</p>