<p>I like that response xiggi. I think it is educated and well measured. </p>
<p>I would also add that there are times when the most supportive lesson a parent can offer is to stand back and allow the child to feel the full force of the consequences they have earned. Especially for children who are quite bright but lacksadaisical, the only real lesson may lie in their own disappointment.</p>
<p>It is for this reason I am not in favor of middle school situations and even elementary school situations which do not give out “grades.”</p>