Sexual Assault and zero tolerance

<p>My daughter is the victim of Sexual Assault at Webster University. Though the "Formal Hearing" found the fellow studentguilty of Sexual Assault, he was allowed to remain a student there because, "...here at Webster, we want
all of our students to succeed." </p>

<p>Needless to say, two years at the top of her class in Conservatory there is over. She has transferred and is currently in therapy. She knew she could never feel safe enough to continue her studies at Webster. Four other girls have come forward with formal complaints against the same student......and yet the perpetrator remains a student at Webster.</p>

<p>I had no idea what an epidemic Sexual Assault is. Had I known, I would have investigated policy and how well that policy has been implemented in the past. The saddest part of all of this story is that my daughter could have chosen many other Universities-but Webster Conservatory was her dream school. </p>

<p>Just felt a need to share this information with parents-the statistics are shocking. Students at Webster are doing a brave thing and have been raising awareness via social media. Please take the time to investigate this aspect of college life before you send your young adult into a nightmare.</p>

<p>Thanks.</p>

<p>Itsonyouwebster</p>

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<p>I am very sorry that your daughter had to experience not only the sexual assault, which on its own is something that nobody should have to endure, but also what happened next… the bureaucratic assault your daughter had to endure at the hands of her college administrators. </p>

<p>I appreciate your sharing of this very personal and very painful experience for your daughter as well as the rest of your family. Being the proud father of two daughters (one in college) I can safely say that this is one of my top fears in life and is what keeps me awake at night. </p>

<p>I wish your daughter all the best as she tries to put her life back together and hope that all the reform in the policy space will lead to your daughter’s assaulter to be brought to justice.</p>

<p>Itsonyouwebster, thanks for sharing your daughter’s story.</p>

<p>I wish your daughter the best.</p>

<p>Best wishes to your daughter in her new environment and it looks like from your signature you’ve found an outlet for your anger also. </p>

<p>I’m so sorry that your daughter had to go through this. I wish you and your daughter the very best.</p>

<p>Can you bring any kind criminal charges against this ‘guy’? If he was in jail, he couldn’t stay at the university. I’m so sorry you and your daughter have to go through this ****.</p>

<p>I feel very badly for your daughter also. That the school concluded he is guilty and allowed him to remain is very upsetting. I have the opinion that all sexual assaults should be reported to the police, not the school.</p>

<p>Thank you for sharing. Best wishes to your D.</p>

<p>She also reported the Sexual Assault to the Webster Groves Police but decided to drop charges as it could stay in the court system for seven years. My daughter feels as though the perp had taken enough-</p>

<p>She reported the Sexual Assault to the police but decided not to move forward with that as proceedings can remain active in the system for seven years. She felt as though the perp had already taken enough from her-</p>

<p>The real statistics on sexual assault are very interesting. </p>

<p><a href=“Rape and Sexual Assault Among College-age Females, 1995-2013 | Bureau of Justice Statistics”>Home | Bureau of Justice Statistics;

<p><a href=“UPDATED: Students protesting Webster's sexual assault policy - Webster Journal”>http://websterjournal.com/2014/12/15/students-protesting-websters-current-sexual-assault-policy/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

I am bringing this thread up again because it’s shocking to me how badly colleges are dealing with this issue. Young women are working so hard through high school to get into their dream schools, and parents save for years in order to send them there—and then it can all be shattered by an event like this. Why aren’t the young men held responsible? Why don’t campuses do more to educate and make clear that rape is UNACCEPTABLE behavior? I know their parents would say that they brought their sons up to be respectful, etc., but somewhere the ball has been dropped. It’s time that parents demand more of their own sons, because they don’t want this to happen to their daughters…and for colleges to make a zero-tolerance policy about sexual assault. Enough is enough.

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