Good for you! Go and have fun. My parents were very strict, so I can relate. I wasn’t allowed to go to the prom at all! My family’s church didn’t think dancing was acceptable. When I was a senior and had a boyfriend, my parents paid for us to go to a dinner theater.
Good for you! Hope you have a nice evening.
And I agree that some parents are quite strict about dating. Had it been up to my husband, our daughter would not have been allowed to go to the junior prom with a date. We agreed to disagree on this issue and I basically overruled him.
I agree. She sounds like a nice girl. Have a good time!
@LuckyCharms913 As you sound like a parent who has similar values, is there anything that would have changed your mind? Would meeting the boy and/or his parents have helodd? Did you ever just have a change of heart on things? I would never in a million years try to get this girl to go without her mother’s knowledge. I don’t want her to get in trouble. But if there’s anything that may change her mother’s mind.
Despite the problems it is good you asked her because now you will get to go to prom and you will have a group of people to hang out with. I wouldn’t press the going as date thing – just go and enjoy.
Kids in our school go in groups, not always with dates. Sometimes mixed gender groups, sometimes not. They often go to dinner ahead of time. Not sure if you have any groups of friends going that you could do that with.
We did allow our daughter to go with a date. Her dad didn’t like the idea at first, but I had zero issue with it. I reminded him that it’s a school event, that she was a good kid who had given us very little trouble, and that she’d known the boy since middle school so knew him well enough to decide if she wanted to go with him. They never really “dated” but had always been good friends (they still are, 4 years later) and she ended up going to the senior prom with him as well.
From stories I have heard about my husband, he was a bit wild in high school, so his reluctance may have been his remembering what he was like at 16.
Unfortunately I have only known this girl since September. I wish I could get to know her mother so there is some way they could figure out I’m a good student and not a bad kid.
Well, think of this a longer game than just prom (especially if you aren’t seniors). If you can’t go to prom, maybe you can at least do things as friends outside of school, maybe with groups of people. Connect with her on social media if you haven’t yet. I’d take her comment at face value that she wishes she could go. Stay in touch – her parents can’t keep her from dating forever. 
If you don’t go as a date, then you don’t do the “before prom stuff”…no going out for dinner or photos or whatever. (things her mom controls)
But she is saying that you can hang out with her AT the prom…definitely do it! (things she controls)
Just to have something to say, I never went to prom because I mostly did online school my last year, didn’t know anyone at my third high school that I was at my last year, and didn’t have the money.
Ok but I still really wanted to go with her. I will still go and see her there as a friend. As long as I can stay just friends with her, that’s fine.
I asked my friend to prom during junior year. When senior year came, she ignored me and never talked to me ever. No idea what happened. We were friends we just to hang out.
“Friends” now certainly has the possibility of growing into “more than friends” down the road.
Go, and have a wonderful time!
My goal in being her friend is not to develop into “more than friends” later. It may happen, but I want to be friends with her only because she is a nice person to be around. If I can only be just friends, i’ll be satisfied.
“If she was not lying to me and really wanted to go, I would not ask someone else, because it would probably make this girl feel bad.”
You have every right to ask someone else to go regardless. This girl isn’t your girlfriend, just someone you know and are friendly with. Therefore, once she said no, you are free to ask someone else. If she felt badly about it, given the circumstances, that would be an overreaction and misplaced, IMO.
Nobody here can read her mind for you. At this point I’d just go and hang out with her and her friends.
Ask someone else. The likelihood of your ever seeing these people again after graduation is very small. After I graduated HS, I remained friends with 4 people. Within 2 years, I was no longer friends with any of them. I saw them at our 20th reunion, had them over once and have not seen or spoken to them since. The only person I attended HS with who I see on any kind of basis is one guy I knew peripherally and that’s only because he’s a judge in a courthouse I practice in.
Ask someone else.
It’s junior prom actually so I will still see everyone for a year after this. But I still don’t really want to ask someone else if I think it will make her feel bad because there is always next year.