I am a Senior and I have a crush on this Junior girl. We got put into a team in a class around 4 months ago and I haven’t talked to her since. Other than that, we don’t know much about each other.
I sent in a follow request to her on Instagram and she didn’t accept it (she left it on idle), but she did accept my friend request on Facebook. Because of this, I am not very sure if she is interested in me or not?
Senior Prom is coming up and I am not sure if I should ask her to prom or not. Would it be awkward for me to ask her to prom since we don’t know each other very well? However, I do want to go to prom with her because I want to form a relationship with her. I get quite nervous just thinking about this. If you guys answer yes, what are some good ways to do it so that it is more discreet and less awkward (if so)? I haven’t had a lot of experience with girls and I need some advice guys, thanks!
I would try to talk to her in the hallways when you see her, or maybe even sit with her at lunch. She would probably appreciate being asked out once you know her a little better. I would avoid contacting her much on social media until you’ve had a few quality face-to-face interactions. She might see it as creepy.
Hahaha, thanks guys. Unfortunately, I only see her in class (btw, she sits about 3 from me, but we’re not on the same team). I don’t even see her during lunch/breaks. But yes, I want to try to talk with her more, but there isn’t anything other than the contents of the class/school that would get me to engage in conversations with her. I won’t contact her through social media (b/c she “doesn’t see” it).
I did the thing with a girl I liked senior year ages ago. Once upon a time I met a girl freshman year, we got paired up together for a dance lessons in high school, and we hit it off. Then we didn’t talk until four years later, where we were in the same class, I asked her to prom, she said yes, and we went together. It was fun.
Don’t use social media as a way to tell if she’s interested, but you’d definitely want to make sure you are close enough to her before asking her to prom. And that you get to know eachother better. Otherwise it may just be awkward. You want to be able to have things to talk about. So make sure you talk to her ahead of time.
Also this line “I do want to go to prom with her because I want to form a relationship with her” seems a bit flawed. Although prom is a wonderful time and it can be a time for people to get closer, real life often doesn’t work the way you see in the movies. If you really want to form a relationship with her, get to know her and ask her out ahead of time before prom. She either will be interested or she will not, and you will know the answer.
Ideally prom should be the culmination of your high school experience and the people you care about, so if you ask her out ahead of time you will have much longer to spend together and be able to go together as a couple. If you ask her for the purposes of prom, you may only have a short couple of weeks left during school and a few months of the summer even if you do form a relationship.
tl;dr If you like her, go for it but get to know her first. Prom is a wonderful experience, but it won’t necessarily magically create relationships if nothing is there. The foundation has to be in place.
Thanks guys for your suggestions! I do agree that what I said about “forming relationship” wasn’t right. If the relationship if it is created, it won’t last. I have nothing else to say about this.
As for this part, I do agree that it would be better to engage with her more (talking, coffee, movie, etc.), but at the same time, I want to act normal and not try to force anything abnormal through aggressively. If I act differently towards her than before (i.e. ask her to hang out & talk about non-school related stuff), I don’t know if it will be uncomfortable for both of us since we haven’t really gone that far.
You have to form a relationship with her first (even if it is just friends) before you can ask her to the prom. You can’t use the prom as a way to form the relationship.
You have to find a way to start communicating with her, talking with her in person and going out as friends or on real dates. Then if the friendship is going well, you can ask her to the prom. Good luck!
Can you ask her about homework in your class from time to time?
Sometimes people might say yes to a prom request also because they think it is cool to go to Senior Prom.
Also, to be logical:
If you don’t ask her, the chances of her going are 0.
If you do ask her and she says no, then you were where you were before.
If you ask her and she says yes, then great!
I agree…start interacting with her in some way so it doesn’t come out of the blue.
You should talk to the girl and ask her that he loves someone or not. Because a good relationship doen’t build on a single basement. Need both agreement and concern. Good luck!
