I’m currently a sophomore in college. All last year I thought about transferring because I just don’t feel happy here. I literally go home every weekend because there is nothing to do on campus and I don’t have a lot of friends here. I’ve decided to give it another semester to see if things would be different. However, I still don’t feel like this is my home. I do not get excited to come back here. The education department here is great but everything else just seems off for me. I don’t know if I’m not giving it my best and looking for the good or if I’m just looking to run away from my problems. I just know that college is supposed to be some of the best years of my life and it should be a time of growth. I just don’t want to have any regrets in the end. Can someone please help me?
How do you know there is nothing to do if you are at home every weekend? How do you expect to have friends if you aren’t around during the non-class time?
I remember having classmates and associates who commuted to school and it was very easy to forget them because they weren’t there, particularly on the weekends when impromptu conversations and activities would occur. Those of us who lived on campus and got involved are still friends, communicating decades later. It is the shared experience that makes the difference.
If you want to transfer, go ahead and do it before your credits reach a cap. But I would suggest you stay on campus from now to Thanksgiving break and get involved. Maybe the school needs someone like you to come up with activities. May I suggest a group project for a food bank ahead of the holidays.
What did you do differently this semester to try to have things go differently?
What types of things would you want to do?
Are you involved in any clubs?
If you are comfortable sharing, what college is it?
Have you gone to the Counseling Center to talk to anyone? If you have some depression issues, then no place will be good.
Do many people commute at your college?
have you tried some of the things in this post? http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/1808143-having-trouble-adjusting-to-college-making-friends-top-10-things-to-do.html
I’ve put my self out there more this year. I do have a small group of friends but they are all living off campus next year so I have no idea who I would room with and how it would affect my social life.
I want to be more involved with clubs and organizations like Greek life (my campus does not have that.)
Right now I’m involved in a community service group that only does things once a month and I also help manage one of the sports teams on campus. The school is in a small town with very little life so a lot of people go home on the weekends or complain that there is nothing to do.
The college is Huntington University
I have not gone to a counselor.
There are quite a few people who commute.
I have tried several things on this list but unfortunately, haven’t had a lot of success
Volunteer in another group. Join campus clubs. Join or create study groups. Leaving every weekend makes it difficult to bond with others on campus.
@Mitzybell , ask yourself what will change if you transfer. Is it you, or the college?