You were accepted at your goal school – and so was your friend. Should you room together? Check these considerations. https://www.collegeconfidential.com/articles/high-school-friend-college-roommate/
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D had a couple of friends from high school who roomed together their first couple of years. They are not rooming together this year and are barely keeping in touch from what I hear. D has two friends she roomed with last year (met them in freshman year), but decided to find completely new people to room with this year. I do not think her friendship with these two would have survived another year of cohabitating. A good friend to hang out with does not necessarily translate into someone you can live with without wanting to wring his/her neck on a regular basis. Go for people you can cohabitate peacefully with - other friendships can survive and thrive outside of the dorm room.
The people in the picture look terrifying with those glasses.
Although not stated, I think that this question should be: “Should Your High School Friend Be Your College Roommate Freshman Year ?”
If limited to a “yes” or “no” response, then the answer is “no”. But, in reality, it really depends upon the individuals involved.
No. Why risk ruining the friendship? And if you do stay close friends, then you’re less likely to be open to making new bffs. If you room separately, you can meet each other’s roomies.
No. Great way to ruin a nice friendship.
Two friends of mine who were high school friends roomed at MIT together. The friendship soured not because of any fights but because one of them coasted through MIT with almost all As and got into MIT graduate school, while the other struggled to get Bs and Cs and got into a decidedly lower ranked graduated school. IMO the guy who had a hard time at MIT should not have gone to MIT but to somewhere else. The guy who did well at MIT tells me he thinks he should have gone to Harvard instead (he got into HYPM) because he found out girls are more interested in you at parties if they know you went to Harvard. lol
No. Best way to ruin a friendship.
Probably not though I did so and 40 years later she’s still my best friend and we still talk everyday. I treasure that time when we got to live together.
why not?! My friend and I were friends all four years of HS. We found out we got into the same college. We decided to room with each other with two others in a suite with 4 separate bedrooms with a common area and bath. We stayed all four years of college. I graduated and left for the workforce. He decided to move to grad school. We are now in different states but still keep in touch via email and sometime face-to-face with our families the last 45 years!
No right answer but for me, college is about personal growth, stretching yourself, and new experiences. Don’t get as much of that living with your HS buddy. Seems to be quite prevalent where we live (FL) at the large state schools. S attends a small private school where first yr roommate was completely random (required) and it was great. Old style hall dorms, two crammed in to a room, communal bathrooms, etc. Forces everyone to get to know everyone on the floor. S made great friendships that will likely last forever (as I did in a similar dorm setting). Was great for him to get him out of his shell.
An aside, when I attended large state school in the 80s, didn’t room with HS friends but hung out with them first semester. Was fun but really quite limiting.(That’s my concern for these kids who live with a HS friend). I decided to move to a different housing area 2nd semester freshmen yr (where I didn’t know anyone) and basically started over. It was a great decision. Learned a lot about myself, gained a lot of confidence, made wonderful friends that are quite close to this day.
It’s just too easy to not push yourself out of your comfort zone when you primarily hang out with your HS friends. We were basically doing the same thing (going to the gym, partying, etc.) just in a different location.
In HS, you have been “typed”. Everyone thinks you are a certain type. When you go to college, you can start all over.l Nobody knows you or has preconceived notions of you. Why drag that into college?