<p>My dad is always complaining that I work/study too much and that I need to take a break when I feel great! He always pesters me about available vacations when that's the last thing I want at the moment. </p>
<p>Does anyone else face this problem? Sometimes I wish he was the opposite; one of those helicopter parents..haha</p>
<p>"But work is funnnnnnn!"</p>
<p>"Hey Dad! Did you know that you can prove something to be differentiable by checking to see if the lim h->0 (f(x+h) - f(x))/h exists?! MATH IS SOOOO COOL!!!"</p>
<p>He may tolerate it more if he knows/thinks you're having fun.</p>
<p>aww he knows I like it. He's just selfish. :(</p>
<p>I used to get mad at my dad for telling me to stop obsessing over things. I wouldn't just read a book, I'd sit in the same chair reading the same book all day. But now I think my dad was right. Reading isn't bad, but obsessing is bad. You need to go out with friends sometimes.</p>
<p>how is he selfish for thinking that? if he's right that you are spending too much time studying, then it is YOU who is being selfish for not spending time with other people.</p>
<p>Wow the difference between asian parents and other parents (i am assuming u r not asian)</p>
<p>Whatever you may feel about it, your dad is concerned about your happiness and only wants to make sure you're not stressing yourself out. I don't think he's being selfish at all. What does he have to gain by telling you to relax? Anyway, I understand your frustrations because this has happened to me to some extent before (A-Card, both asian and white parents can have this attitude). Just try to ignore him or tell him your work is important to you and assure him that you're not burning out.</p>
<p>Maybe your dad wants to spend some more time with you. Are you perhaps studying so much that you don't spend as much time with your family as you used to?</p>
<p>In any case, when I was in high school, I would've jumped for joy if my dad had said anything of the sort to me.</p>
<p>I don't really think it's selfish. Obviously he cares about you and wants what is best for you.</p>
<p>Neither of you are being selfish. You just want control over your life, and he just wants you to be happy. So there.</p>