<p>My problem - you know how a five year old gets her way? I do; I've got a five year old sister. She pouts, sighs, whines, uses a disarming smile, and if all else fails, cries. Well, my parents are resorting to the same tactics, in different ways. Whenever I try to do anything they don't approve of, they make me feel guilty by lightly saying, "It's okay. We understand."</p>
<p>GRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!</p>
<p>I can't stand it, because I've got a massive guilt complex! I swear, they're just exploiting this!</p>
<p>Right now, they're trying their goshdurned hardest to get me to drop my AP courses and, "Have some fun in life."</p>
<p>GRRRRRRRR!!!!!!</p>
<p>...You're laughing at me right now, aren't you?</p>
<p>Or staring at me incredulously, like I've grown antlers.</p>
<p>Or reaching for a mallet to whack me over the head with for complaining about this.</p>
<p>My parents are kinda like that too, except they say: "<em>sigh</em> Ok. Do whatever you want." and they act all indifferent. It's really annoying. I usually smack them in the shoulder or something to get some emotion out of them lol.</p>
<p>My (also non-asian...I guess technically they could be considered asian) parents want me to drop all of my AP courses. They consistently tell me to get straight A's, but then they tell me to drop all of my extracurriculars, get a job, and take all regular courses. I try explaining to them that most colleges will want to see a student with extracurricular's and an honors/AP load, but then they use the guilt factor. They think that I'm insane for doing the stuff I do and say that no college will expect me to get straight A's with a job. </p>
<p>Anyone else wondering what planet they're on?</p>
<p>Oh, thank god! I was starting to think I was the only one with this problem! Every other high-achieving kid I've known has been under perpetual pressure from their parents, and I just can't wrap my mind around the concept.</p>
<p>It's not the only key to having a high-achieving kid, but I'll wager that, on the whole, we're a happier bunch than the overworked, pressured to the limits breed. :D</p>
<p>I wrote this in half-jest at the other thread! :p Wouldn't have included the "Asian" part otherwise, seeing as how it's so very atypical of Asian parents.</p>
<p>But seriously, don't see why I can't - they're my parents, and while I'm infinitely grateful for everything they've done for me, and I feel immensely indebted to them (hence my problem, as an aside), it doesn't mean I can't say a few things about them every once in a while. Living under the same roof with anyone for a good length of time can be grating on the nerves every so often. It's not as though I am denouncing them in any way, and if it comes across that way, it's wholly unintentional.</p>
<p>I'm sincerely sorry if it offends you, and even more so if you are in a pained position, but I feel a bit offended that you would insinuate that there is anything particularly malicious about what I posted, or that I posted on the topic at all.</p>
I can't stand it, because I've got a massive guilt complex! I swear, they're just exploiting this!
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<p>So tell them that, and maybe they'll change.
Personally I'm extremely open with my father about my feelings, and I don't think our relationship could get any better.</p>
<p>LOL. I'm pretty sure, actually, that they don't mean to. The thread was partially meant to poke fun at the other one, and because I'm rather sick of all the people who immediately assume that, because I'm Asian and do well academically, my parents must be fairly harsh. Mine are actually pretty supportive of whatever I do, and wherever I go in life.</p>
<p>I mean, yeah, it's like that, but not to the degree where I'd have a real issue with it.</p>
<p>My parents might as well be Asian. For the last four years, they've been telling me I'm not ready to go to a four-year college and be on my own, as clearly indicated by my total of four non-A grades and my 2340 SAT.</p>
<p>It felt really great to shove my acceptance letter to Harvey Mudd right up in their faces.</p>
<p>^ yeah. my friend's dad is like that. No matter what she does, it's not good enough. If she's in all honors and gets 93's in them, her dad says, what? this is the best you could do? (if she says yes) That's pathetic! You suck! </p>
<p>no i wasnt driving, somebody called me and said 'get in the car', we're right next to the e/w divider street and then we went to 336 W and back to 336 E for a party..it was actually 2 blocks from my house in the end. w/e it was fun. idiots filled solo regulation cups 3/4 wth...</p>