I feel like Im a terrible person right now and I have no one to talk about my feelings. So I am a senior in high school who have been on varsity team for all four years. Last year my junior year, somehow my coach didnt pick me as a captain and he picked this sophomore girl as a captain.My coach acted like I was a team captain throughout the whole season and he decided to kick me out and pick this sophomore girl as a captain for the season. It was really embarrassing because I told yearbook and newspaper that I was a captain for sure then I had to text them again that I wasnt a team captain. The thing Im really pissed about is that she is so immature and she doesnt know anything about the team and how everything works because she was on a team for only three years now. I am the most experienced and I have the highest GPA yet I didnt get picked…My coached announced the team captain of the season at the end of the season, and he hasnt announced this year’s seasons’ captain yet, so I had this little hope of getting picked as a senior captain. However I recently figured it out that I was not. I see my friends now chosen as team captains in their sports and that makes me feel even worse. People think I got kicked out because I was a bad player, but I know that its because my coach made the stupidest decision. Idk what to do Im so embarrassed and I feel like im a huge failure and I am so unmotivated right now I really need someone to talk about this, but I have no one because she’s super popular and everybody thinks she deserves the captain spot. Recently our school’s news broadcast team interviewed her for the sport’s segment and now whole school is going to know that she is the captain… What do I do??
Youre not a failure. a failure is me after 7 beers and like 4 shots. oh god to this day the smell of vodka makes me wanna vomit comet. But anyways back to the point, its senior year so its not a big deal and even if it wasnt it still wouldnt matter. trust me, im in a fraternity. also heres what you do: NOTHING. You forget about it and move on. Just stay good at school and youll do fine.
In sports, the selection of captain has a lot to do with what the coach/es think/s the team needs.
You may think that it was supposed to be you.
Because you had a high GPA and more experience, you assumed that you were a shoo-in for captain. It doesn’t work that way. It really wasn’t what the team needed.
Plus, your attitude lacks maturity with how you have discussed your TEAMMATE and captain, as well as the coach.
So what? She IS the captain.
The whole school SHOULD know that she is the captain. It’s not your role to block the whole school from knowing that she is the captain.
What do you mean “What do I do”? You accept the decision graciously. She was selected by the coach for a REASON.
I have worked as the parent rep for 11 years on my children’s HS sports teams. The coaches selected the team captains based on how the captains could motivate the team. Part of that selection was also based on natural ability within the sport. There is a REASON she was selected and you were not.
Maybe the coach got wind of your announcement, to everyone that you were the Captain?
How would this affect your college admission? Are you a highly recruited athlete???
I’m sorry. But being a varsity player for 4 years is a decent accomplishment. Did you really think that this captain position was going to make or break your college application? I think not. I think you are overstating in your own head the importance people place on knowing who is a captain.
im just going to delete what I previously posted bc i think im just making the situation worse
thank you everyone I really want to delete the whole thread but I guess I cant
"And still my coach didn’t recognized me as a captain. Guess what, you need to be able to handle disappointment. What you expect and what you receive can be two totally different things.
Okay, maybe I’ve been out of school too long but why will the whole school’s knowledge of your not being captain embarrass you? Do you think everyone at that school will constantly think about you not being made captain?
Did you tell everyone at the school that you were captain and now you have to “eat crow”?
Will you be ostracized?
Do all of your classmates run the course of their lives based on your accomplishments?
I think you are making this role more than what it is, and perhaps, this is a reason you were not selected as captain.
If you don’t have any other EC’s, that’s on you, not on your team’s drama. (BTW, the worst “sportsmanship” teammates were the kids who always had to prove everyone wrong and say, “I told you so”. This is really bad sportsmanship.)
Did you already fill out applications telling the colleges that you were the team captain without confirming this with the coach??? That’s called, “counting your chickens before they’re hatched”.
One title of captain will not affect your admissions. GPA and SAT/ACT are KING in admissions decisions.
no I wrote nothing about being a captain on my college app I just wrote that I was varsity all 4 years
It’s no biggie OP. It won’t have any impact. Just smile and take it gracefully. That’s all you should do now.
Don’t worry. You’re certainly not a failure. Like others said, playing varsity for 4 years is already an accomplishment. In comparison to everything you have ahead of you in life, it’s a very small thing. A few years into college, you probably won’t even remember this. It, like others also said, shouldn’t make or break your college admissions.
My D2 was hoping to be a captain for one of her activities senior year. The coach picked another senior who had only superficial commitment to the activity and team (resume building for college…). My kid channelled that frustration into a year of big accomplishments in the activity. She carried her team to nationals and finished 3rd in the state individually. If it is any consolation, my kid got in every college she applied to, including UChicago, Swarthmore, and Mudd, in spite of having no official leadership positions. She led by example and performance. You should try to do the same.
When my son was in HS I am pretty sure that, outside of his team, nobody at the school knew who the team captain was. It just isn’t a big deal. Everyone at the school has their own activities or interests and most don’t have time to worry about who the team captain for each sport is- and they probably don’t really care.
The fact that you are putting so much weight on this tells me you probably don’t have a great attitude, and believe me, the coach can recognize that. You need to get over it, contribute your best to the team, go out of your way to make sure that your resentment is not causing an attitude problem, and move on. Colleges won’t care if you were team captain in high school, not even if you will be playing that sport in college, but especially if it is just an EC.
Oh, and the kid who angled for the captainship to beef up her resume? She didn’t get into most of her schools, including some my kid got into. Don’t worry… it is ONE item on your app. Play your best for your team and focus on the things you can control.