<p>I was thinking of telling this guy that I'm sort of friends with that I like him in a Christmas card. But what if he doesn't like me back, or worse, doesn't even respond? I've had plenty of bfs, but they've all asked me out, and most of them weren't in any of my classes/didn't go to my school. This guy goes to my school and is in 5 of my 7 classes, so it would be very awkward if I did this and he didn't like me back. There is a small chance (20-25%) that he might like me already. Has anyone had experiences like this before? Do you think I should do it or just stare from afar?</p>
<p>Being rejected for after asking someone out is worth than death, because you can remember rejection. Just posting this means that you will chicken out. The only way to let a guy know you like him is to tell him, otherwise he will never know. With sexual harassment laws and sexual assult laws completely prejudiced against men, most guys won't touch a girl unless they get the go ahead from the girl herself.</p>
<p>joev is right, the whole sexual harassment BS has handicapped men beyond repair when it comes to hitting on ladies. Girls are going to have to start putting in the efforts now, alot more than before, because no guy wants to be accused of sexual harassment just because he tried to flirt with a girl by putting his hand on her shoulder.</p>
<p>yeah so, if you send that card, he'll probably file for sexual harrassment.</p>
<p>do it anyway. no, seriously, do it anyway. it's probably awkward with him right now, especially if neither of you can tell where the relationship is headed as is. or if it's not going in the direction you want it to.</p>
<p>Yeah, ofcourse keep in mind that guys don't think the same way as girls....(i.e. you can't tell him you like him with "hints") so if you are going to tell him that you are interested and that you "like" him...you better do it with straight forward verbage, or he will completely miss your point. Guys don't think in "hints".</p>
<p>^^^ seconded.</p>
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<p>because I was laughing too hard to continue.</p>
<p>LOL, yeah, huh ^^^ putting the chances into percentages just seems so odd...it is quite hilarious.</p>
<p>it is pretty funny :p</p>
<p>but still....look at the way he treats ya.....if you 2 talk to eachother alot, make a decent amount of physical contact, if he goes outta his way to talk to you, makes flirtacious comments go for it.....also...if ya get rejected..not the end of the world....you 2 might be akward for a week or 2, but after a while it'll go back to normal friends...hell my girlfriend and I just broke up 3 or 4 weeks ago, we'd been dating for over a year and a half...it was really bad for the first few weeks, absolutely just horrible for us to even talk to eachother online not to mention horrendous in person.....but eh...i still like her, i won't lie, but gotta move on...we talk normally now, we're really friendly with eachother.....plus....if he says yes it might be worth it in the end</p>
<p>bump...the day is getting closer. <em>gulp</em></p>
<p>always try.</p>
<p>it's good to try, even if you fail</p>
<p>I've been in that situation before. (He turned me down, and no, it wasn't pretty.) Think of it this way, though--if you don't try, you'll never know.</p>
<p>Good luck! :)</p>
<p>Do it. If he says no, then he isn't attracted to you. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you at all or is disgusted by you or anything like that. You can't help who you are and aren't attracted to. It sucks, yeah, but just think about all the wonderful guy friends you have and love but would never consider dating. Just try not to take it too personally. I think you should just give it a shot.</p>
<p>And, yeah, guys don't catch hints, so don't depend on that. I would also suggest telling him in person, but that's just my style. If you know any of his friends well, you can try to find out from them if he likes you.</p>
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Do it. If he says no, then he isn't attracted to you. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you at all or is disgusted by you or anything like that. You can't help who you are and aren't attracted to. It sucks, yeah, but just think about all the wonderful guy friends you have and love but would never consider dating.
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That's really good advice. My 9th grade self wasn't as bright, and figured that:</p>
<p>He isn't attracted to me ==> I'm disgusting and unattractive.</p>
<p>Needless to say, this sort of approach creates unnecessary self-pity and drama.</p>
<p>It's still hard to put in action, though!</p>