Social problems

<p>Okay so I came into freshmen year looking to make friends. I was living on res so I thought it'd be easier. The first month of school kind of sucked, I really put myself out there and talked to people, especially the girls on my floor, but I never made any close bonds like other people did. The girls on my floor were a little reserved, and a lot of them had other friends from high school. Eventually though, after a month, we became friends. We weren't super close like other groups of people became, but we still hung out occasionally. I still didn't feel like I clicked with them though, and I did not feel comfortable around them. They enjoyed hanging out though, so I stuck around. I don't drink, and they like to party, but I was cool with that. Still, I just felt like I didn't click with them because we were such different people. </p>

<p>Second term rolled around, and my courses got WAY harder. I had to put more time into them, and I started spending time at the library. On top of that, I had meetings and events for the three clubs I was in, so I spent less time in my dorm. Also, I became friends with the people I study with, and we started hanging out occasionally too. I actually liked these people, and the people in the clubs I'm in, so I was pretty happy. Now, it's been about two months, and whenever I do see the girls on my floor, they tell me I'm being antisocial and lame. I know they talk about how weird it is that I spend so much time in the library, and I get a little offended because I'm perfectly fine the way I am. I don't see why it has to bother them. They are always on my case about how I don't party or go out, but really I find that I don't enjoy those things so much. I honestly don't even mind that I don't see these girls so much, because I really didn't take much of a liking to them. Was this rude of me? Did I just make things awkward between them and I?</p>

<p>I feel bad though, because they are still friendly towards me. One of them invited me to her birthday, and I honestly don't want to go because I was going to be at home that weekend, and plus I won't know many people there. Would it be super awful not to go?
I feel bad about it, since she stopped by with a piece of cake and Starbucks on my birthday, so I feel like I should at least have the decency to show up to hers. I just don't want to go though, and I don't know, I just thought that it'd be okay to do what I want to do. But it really just seems like they're making an effort to be friends with me, but I'm not doing that in return. I really don't understand why they want to be friends with me, I didn't even hang out with them that much first term. </p>

<p>Is it wrong to not want to be friends with a group of people because you feel like you don't have much in common with them? Is it wrong to be a antisocial sometimes and not want to go to a birthday party which you think you won't enjoy?</p>

<p>Be friends with the people you want to be friends with, but respect the rest. Is it just one girl whos being nice to you, or is everyone coming by with cake and starbucks? you could also try showing up at this girls birthday party and brave it for one night. You can also say that you can show up for the first hour, but then you have to leave because xyz. It would show her that you appreciate her, but you wouldnt have to stay forever. </p>

<p>All in all, if theyre being rude, ignore them. If they’re making an effort, you can be nice, but not necessarily best friends. Their deifnition of friendship might have been more loose than yours, and now they think that youve ditched them cold or something.</p>