insert generic college life topic here. yes my friendships have struggled.

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<p>First off, I'm pretty happy with how things are so far. To my own surprise I'm doing pretty darn well here academically, I got lucky and found a job, and I've been inspired to improve on my musical abilities to join one of the jazz clubs around here. I mean it sounds pretty good.</p>

<p>As you can figure a problem I have is making good friends here. </p>

<p>So for my freshman orientation (which is a week-long event right before school starts) I had a decent number of groups. I went out. I met people and exchanged numbers. I thought that I would eventually have my share of friends soon. Of course, I guess I'm pretty socially awkward so I don't have any friendships lasting to present day.</p>

<p>I'd befriend my hall, except my hall is full of singles (NOTE TO SELF, NEVER DO THIS AGAIN) and it's very VERY antisocial. Like, I hear voices from my hall once every three days or so. Me and a few people there are kind of chill with each other but I can't really imagine holding even a ten minute conversation with them because of our differences in interests.</p>

<p>I tried joining the pep band (didn't try out for the more musically challenging bands because I forgot... oops) but it wasn't my taste. Now I'm planning to take lessons soon. I'm making acquaintances with coworkers pretty quickly but I can't really imagine being friends with most of them outside of work because of schedules. As for other clubs I'm still searching but I feel like everyone's made their circle of friends by now.</p>

<p>When people try to make small chat with me I smile and respond politely but I've never really made a real friend here yet. I've got friends in high school who I keep up with every day as well as a girlfriend who's still in high school so I still have a lot of company especially since they're there when I come back home. But as for on campus... not as lucky.</p>

<p>I'm thinking of switching dorms to a more social environment for starters. But sometimes I feel awkward trying to join a circle of friends when I don't have one myself.</p>

<p>Can someone with the endurance to read another one of these threads give me some tips?</p>

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<p>You hit the nail on the head when you said that people try to make small chat but you don’t engage in the conversation. Making friends is not a passive act and you should not expect friendships to just happen. When people talk to you, ask them about their interests or find some random thing and start talking! Pick a sports game to talk about or the news, anything really! Once you engage with other people, they will want to hang out with you more. And thus friendships are born!</p>

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<p>Engage in every conservation presented because you actually have to try for great friendships</p>