<p>So maybe this is spamming, maybe not. But I just started blogging for Realivy.com, and my first post there can be applied to just about anyone anywhere about to start school. I thought I should share it with the community at large. Check it out. If you enjoy my writing style, feel free to keep checking it out, as I hope to be updating biweekly. Comment there or here if you’d like.</p>
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<p>Awesome advice, modestmelody.</p>
<p>I think the first point of advice (about being yourself, but not "too much") is the best. A lot of people come to college thinking that this will be their first opportunity to be themselves after a long period of hiding, covering, and pretending in high school. This is true... but then some of these people take this opportunity to "make up for" what they missed in high school or to be defensive and assume that the exact same problems will occur in college. For example, if you never had a boyfriend/girlfriend in high school, your freshman year of college is NOT the time to:
a. Go out and get laid as much as possible to "prove" to yourself that you're worth it, or make finding a significant other your first priority (to the exclusion of activities, friendships, schoolwork, etc), or
b. Assume that you will never have any success with the opposite/same sex in college, and become a recluse or dump all your old girl/guy problems on your new friends.</p>
<p>Similarly, even if you think you know yourself and who you are really well, you never know how you will react to a new environment. Think you're an earlybird and can't study late into the night? You never know until you schedule classes late in the morning and actually have the opportunity to sleep in. Think you're a loner who can't make friends? You never know until you're with a group of completely new people who have no preconceptions about you. Think you're a straight-down-the-ticket republican/democrat? You never know until you have the opportunity to vote for yourself, and be surrounded by thousands of passionate people with differing opinions.</p>
<p>I guess the point is... don't stuff yourself into a niche by trying to "be yourself" -- you'll only end up limiting yourself.</p>
<p>You get it, I hope they do when they read it.</p>
<p>Thanks for taking the time.</p>
<p>I don't know if this makes me an accessory to the linkbaiting, but I looked at realivy a few weeks ago and deemed it possibly worthwhile enough to have linked it on my own site. Not a very sterling standard, I guess, but hey--musters my initial support.</p>
<p>oh ps on Paragraph 6 of the ToS there is a typo--someone spelled "waive" without an i.</p>
<p>good advice, modest melody</p>
<p>good advice modest...and ILB....you guys are just basically sayin be yourself...but not to the point where you close yourself to new ideas and experiences....right¿¿¿</p>
<p>man you guys woulda been awesome to have in my philosophy class last year lol =P</p>