reflections in my last year of college

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<p>-college is only the time of your life if you are very good looking. If you're ugly, you're going to hate college. You constantly read posts about people not fitting in, not liking their college for some stupid reason. Well, if you were having sex with the object(s) of your desire, you would be happy. Not rocket science. </p>

<p>-Likewise, if you're poor, you're going to be self-conscious about it, and resentful that you have to work while not being able to indulge in other's opulent life style. </p>

<p>-you're not going to get a high paying job out of school, unless you went to an Ivy and had a stellar GPA. You might hear about some guy who did, but it's mostly fantasy. </p>

<p>-don't study engineering unless you're good at it. Seriously. You're gonna make yourself miserable and you're not going to get a good job with a low GPA. </p>

<p>-don't smoke weed regularly. It's a waste of time and you will do worse in school. </p>

<p>-DO drink, but not during the week. Getting drunk with your friends is important. If you don't have friends, you will have some once you start drinking.</p>

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<p>Good post, would read again.</p>

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<p>wutang, im disappointed in you. No mention of how being short also makes the college experience suck?</p>

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<p>honestly...AWESOME post! most of that stuff is totally true, especially number 1...although i'm not sure if being poor will make you miserable, i had a roommate who lived paycheck-to-paycheck dj'ing one night a week at a club for $50 and he always seemed to be having fun</p>

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<p>Oh, gosh. Are you seriously still in this turmoil? I've been here for several years now (over an account of two) and you've been moaning since day one. It's time to stop beating yourself up. First you whine about being short and the fact that no girl wants to sleep with you. Boo hoo. You need a girl to sleep with you be self-validated?! You whine about your school. Not everyone goes to an Ivy, that's just the way life is. And no, they can be successful. It's not a fantasy. We could go on with this, but you get the point. You're pitiful. Grown a spine and pull that tail out from between your legs.</p>

<p>All you're doing is causing yourself heartache. Why don't you change your attitude? And if all the things you are saying are true, then why isn't everyone on this board whining like you? Sure, we get a few more, but I guarantee you they're not all ugly or poor.</p>

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Oh, gosh. Are you seriously still in this turmoil? I've been here for several years now (over an account of two) and you've been moaning since day one. It's time to stop beating yourself up. First you whine about being short and the fact that no girl wants to sleep with you. Boo hoo. You need a girl to sleep with you be self-validated?! You whine about your school. Not everyone goes to an Ivy, that's just the way life is. And no, they can be successful. It's not a fantasy. We could go on with this, but you get the point. You're pitiful. Grown a spine and pull that tail out from between your legs.</p>

<p>All you're doing is causing yourself heartache. Why don't you change your attitude? And if all the things you are saying are true, then why isn't everyone on this board whining like you? Sure, we get a few more, but I guarantee you they're not all ugly or poor.

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<p>You're wrong, you have no idea what it's like. I 100% agree with Wu Tang, and hell I go to an Ivy. I don't think you can even understand the role that height plays in one's social life as a guy. It is pretty much like a girl being fat...permanently. And even bigger girls can get more action than smaller guys.</p>

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<p>^Oh, please. I have five brothers and none of them are six feet tall. They all have had no problem meeting girls (incl. tall model-esque girls). Why would you even want to be with a girl who was so shallow she wouldn't consider you just because of your height?</p>

<p>What it boils down to is if you let your height hinder you. If the short guys didn't whine all day about something they can't change and focus on their better qualities maybe girls would take a liking to them. It's all about confidence.</p>

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^Oh, please. I have five brothers and none of them are six feet tall. They all have had no problem meeting girls (incl. tall model-esque girls). Why would you even want to be with a girl who was so shallow she wouldn't consider you just because of your height?

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<p>You're basing this on brothers who are not above average??? Try having five brothers, none of whom are 5' 8''. Maybe you don't know what short means. </p>

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Why would you even want to be with a girl who was so shallow she wouldn't consider you just because of your height?

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<p>Go tell some girl who is fat, "why would you even want to be with a guy who was so shallow he wouldn't consider you just because of your weight?" People are attracted to who they are attracted to. I don't hold it against girls if they are attracted to taller guys...it's not a reflection of their shallowness (of course, gauging qualities like intelligence based on height IS shallow). </p>

<p>So no, that point isn't comforting.</p>

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What it boils down to is if you let your height hinder you. If the short guys didn't whine all day about something they can't change and focus on their better qualities maybe girls would take a liking to them. It's all about confidence.

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<p>...this statement is based on...what, your opinion? I mean, imagine saying anything remotely similar about Blacks and * current * racism. It would be ridiculous. Imagine me saying this about girls who don't look so great. Doesn't make sense...and have you ever considered that confidence is, at least in part, connected to your experiences?</p>

<p>Look, this is turning into a debate...people can take Wu Tang's advice as they want to, I'm just saying that it rings very true with me.</p>

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<p>wow tiger... you don't know what you're talking about. I know a guy 5'7" or 5'8" and the way he gets any girl attracted to him is crazy. I don't even like going out with him because he basically steals the show and I have no chance (even though he just got married - the chick will still be interested in him and not me). He doesn't even approach chicks or have any "game" because usually a chick will start flirting with him when he just acts himself. Admittedly, despite his height, he's good looking, extroverted, and very witty. But he's overcome his height obstacle and now landed a model caliber wife who makes twice as much as him.</p>

<p>being short is not the male equivalent of being fat. Being fat is that equivalent. Being short would be the equivalent of a girl being tall (although being short is a higher handicap). Basically, my point is that although being short is a handicap, it can be redeemed for. Being fat can't really.</p>

<p>My initial post in this thread was sarcastic btw. Tiger, how short are you? I know that wutang isn't that short... he's like 5'8" or something. 5'8" isn't even really short IMO. At least I don't think so... but I'm only 5'9.5".</p>

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<p>Tiger, I'm not going to even address the stupidity that is the two last statements of your post, but as for this:

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You're basing this on brothers who are not above average??? Try having five brothers, none of whom are 5' 8''. Maybe you don't know what short means.

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Six feet is considered the base level of "tall" for a male. I was simply saying they are not tall. They aren't all taller than 5'8" anyhow. You can go off and cry again.</p>

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<p>I just have to comment on the first point of the OP... um, you know lots of kids choose NOT to have sex in college, and are still happy campers. Maybe your issue is that you are not comfortable with yourself and don't feel like you have self worth unless you are banging hot chicks?</p>

<p>Also the whole short guy=fat girl thing... hmmm, yeah that doesn't work. I'll say straight up, I am a female, I am taller than most females in my area, and I am overweight. I have had no issues in the 'guy department' whatsoever... why? Because I know I'm an awesome person all around, and I am confident without being stuck up or cocky. Funny enough, more guys try to go on dates with me when I am on a single and taking care of myself kick, because I am even more confident at those times, being as I am not looking for anyone else to complete me. And, yes, I am also one of those that chooses not to have sex for the time being (past couple years at school). I have had it before, yes, so I know what I am 'missing', yes in the past I have done it in college, but very selectively. The thing is, banging students has nothing to do with having the time of your life, whether you are male or female (don't feed me any of the 'but you don't know what it's like for a guy blahblahblah crap; I grew up as 'one of the guys' and many of my friends are male and I know some of them aren't banging and still have a great time!)</p>

<p>Also, I am 'poor' I guess you would say. After getting out of school I had to work full time and started back to school by paying for one class in cash. From there on out it was full time work, full time student, and loans. I do not feel self conscious about it, it is what it is. In fact, I feel more confident about it because, low and behold, I learned to get by in the adult world long before my peers, and I earn my own money... not many handouts come my way, and that makes me feel GREAT. And yes, I live around and hang out with a bunch of kids that come from crazy rich families, some who insist on wearing business suits and designer clothing around campus... as males... goodness knows why. I scoff at that, but it's how they were taught to present themselves.</p>

<p>The rest of your points, you can have, they are mostly correct. I for one choose not to drink most weekends though. I'd rather socialize in environments when there isn't someone puking on the wall of the tiny hallway of a college kid apartment or frat house. That was the last party I even drank at, because that grossed me out to the sober point and I realized how dumb overly-drunk college kids act... that was about a year ago and I still have friends that do that scene, I just choose not to.</p>

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<p>My daughter has a guy friend who is about 5'4" They are both in college. This guy is and has always been very popular with boys and girls, a fun, friendly guy with plenty of girlfriends. People are attracted to him because he is a lively, confident, interesting person.</p>

<p>Look around and see how many short men are married and have kids. They did not have trouble finding women to love and appreciate them. If no girl wants to spend time with you, it is not because you are short.</p>

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<p>The first 4 point out zero self-confidence because I disagree with just about every point. Even the last one- as long you don't show up in your class hungover and can remember your readings, professors won't take it against you. 5th is the only one that makes sense. Let me REVERSE them:</p>

<p>-college is only the time of your life if you <strong>can do whatever you want because it's your world</strong>. If you're <strong>lacking self-confidence</strong>, you're going to hate college. You constantly read posts about people not fitting in, not liking their college for some stupid reason. Well, if you were having sex with the object(s) of your desire, you would be happy. Not rocket science. </p>

<p>-Likewise, if you're poor <strong>and let that stigma get to you,</strong> you're going to be self-conscious about it, and resentful that you have to work while not being able to indulge in other's opulent life style. <strong>On the other hand, if you feel left out in your "circle" of friends, then they're not friends for you. Good friends respect each other's spending choices and go for pizza rather than splurge on sushi.</strong></p>

<p>-you're not going to get a high paying job out of school, unless you <strong>do well in college including leadership in ECs or have summer internships that teach you skills</strong>. You might hear about some guy who did, but it's mostly <strong>luck or from social networking, particularly the alums, that you've taken advantage of through your career services.</strong> </p>

<p>-don't study engineering unless you're good at <strong>math and science</strong>. Seriously. You're gonna make yourself miserable and you're not going to get a good job with a low GPA <strong>by engineering standards- don't stress if you didn't pull a 3.5</strong></p>

<p>-don't smoke weed regularly. It's a waste of time and you will do worse in school. <strong>You won't be able to absorb the material and focus in class. Not to mention that you will get call to the Honors/Disciplinary Board, which you don't want to do</strong></p>

<p>-DO drink, but not <strong>to the excess</strong>. Getting drunk with your friends is important. If you don't have friends, you will have some once you start <strong>socializing and asking them to do things with you whether it's going for a run or doing a happy hour</strong>.</p>

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<p>Some of this stuff is correct, although you should be able to overcome most any of the "limitations" that were set in the OP.</p>

<p>The only disagreement I would have is with the weed. I know a lot of people who smoke it A LOT and have no problem maintaining a 3.8+ in "hard" majors (like engineering).</p>

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<p>I'm so sick of this midget coming on here and complaining.</p>