<p>I totally agree. Although my parents are not too serious about my academics, i know other azn parents who put enormous presssure on their kids. It's really a sad situation. They seem to demand perfection. Now, I study a lot and somehow, my parents have begun to worry about me...when initially, their whole expectation was for me to spend all my time studying. They make me feel guilty about getting A's now because they look down upon the amount of time I spend studying...saying that I should rather do chores around the house...etc. I hate moderation...compromise. It's either one way or another. They can't have both. I've made my concessions. It's time for them to make theirs.</p>
<p>i envy you. at least you have parents that give a damn. me? no one pushed me to do well in school no guidance whatsoever and i got mostly d's and c's in high school... and as a result i went to junior college and after many many years im finally at a university.</p>
<p>Ah, in a way... I think my own faults were overblown by my parents.</p>
<p>I never really had that much confidence in myself when I was younger, and I didn't realize that the things that I was doing as a result of being pushed by my parents actually made me intelligent because I picked up on it quickly. Up until freshman year in high school, I had absolutely no confidence in myself and only tried in school because I was so scared. I didn't even want to THINK about what would happen if I failed.</p>
<p>My parents only pushed me, and they rarely praised me when I was younger. I was smarter than most of my old friends, so we never mentioned academics when we were hanging out. I moved to a new city this year and I'm finally getting my life together by doing the things I want and moving things my way and realizing that I can be proud of myself.</p>
<p>A lot of my Asian friends have ways to block their parents out when they're lecturing or comparing us to other kids but I just can't seem to. Oh well...</p>
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You know what sucks even more? When you push yourself! Seriously, my parents are ok with grades. They are like, one or 2 b's everynow and then is ok, and try hard. My parent's are more like, have good connections with older people, who can show you what is coming, since they didn't grow up here.(my parents). They are really cool. I know this one asian guy, who goes to my school, and comes to these forums. I got a ride home with his mom, and she kept talking about how smart this white kid at school, not gonna give names, is so smart. Sure, he creams us because he is a natural genius, and aces PSAT, SAT, etc, but I would consider him one of the dumbest kids i know: He drinks, smokes pot, and has sex quite often. He is also extremely lazy.
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<p>Yes yes yes... but I think this was dumb too.
You skipped school to stay home and post on collegeconfidential?
Where is the logic? Skipping school for this?
Lol if you're sick, stay in bed.</p>
<p>J/K you probably have a good reason for staying home.</p>
<p>I love Asian.</p>
<p>I am an Asian.</p>
<p>My parents always pushed me and my brothers/sisters hard; no complain</p>
<p>Result: my big brother went to Princeton and my second sister went to Harvard
me: I hope I can go to Stanford</p>
<p>Ah, the pain of having Asian parents. Not being able to go out as much with friends, having them disapprove of your girlfriends/boyfriends. And of course the constant pressure for academic excellence. A friend of mine recently got a 1490 on his SATs, only to be reprimanded by his Asian mom and have his Asian dad say "Study harder."</p>
<p>Well the problem is all my parents' friends children went to all these prestigious schools and they expect me to do the same. If all other asians went to regular colleges, they probably would have lower expectations.</p>
<p>I agree with that, since I am a Korean. So many Korean parents are really shallow; they brag about their son and daughter, but don't really know anything. But i'm pretty lucky, since my parents say I can double-major in history and chemistry in college. But i sense my dad encouraging me to try some money-making jobs. These don't refer to lawyer or doctor but like future analyst like Alvin Toffler, stock analyst, or engineer. But i'm pretty lucky that my dad doesn't enforce me to become something that i don't want to be.
are you korean?</p>
<p>you are mostly right.
some asian parents expect too much of their children, but i can understand because success in school is important.
my parents have not said much about my academic life, and I have never had poor grades. so i think it all depends on whether a student is motivated or not...</p>
<p>in some aspects, i think asian parents are similar to jewish parents who also underscore the importance of school. They also expect their children to be lawyers, doctors, and etc that will lead their children to have decent livings, at least.</p>
<p>and to elizabeth, even though i think you should major in what you love, you will not make a lot of money majoring in anthropology and other non-popular majors. what u gotta do is find a right guy in college!! that is whats good about being a girl</p>
<p>you are mostly right.
some asian parents expect too much of their children, but i can understand because success in school is important.
my parents have not said much about my academic life, and I have never had poor grades. so i think it all depends on whether a student is motivated or not...</p>
<p>in some aspects, i think asian parents are similar to jewish parents who also underscore the importance of school. They also expect their children to be lawyers, doctors, and etc that will lead their children to have decent livings, at least.</p>
<p>and to elizabeth, even though i think you should major in what you love, you will not make a lot of money majoring in anthropology and other non-popular majors. what u gotta do is find a right guy in college!! that is whats good about being a girl!!</p>
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<p>Not entirely true actually. Admissions counselors at law schools actually PREFER majors other that Pre-law/criminal justice--they are looking to create a diverse student body. Also, majoring in humanities like English lit, anthropology,religious studies, etc. help you to strengthen your critical thinking and writing skills, which are a MUST for lawyers.</p>
<p>A lot of students start college extremely anxious about choosing their major. They think that their huge future will ride on their decison. However, no matter what you major in, you will be developing skills to succeed in whatever area you decide to pursue. In fact, even if you have majored in something like philosophy, as long as you've taken the required courses like calc, bio, chem, etc, you could apply to med/vet. school.</p>
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what u gotta do is find a right guy in college!! that is whats good about being a girl!!
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<p>Hahaha :) The guy I like at this point just so happens to be an economics major, but even still I want to be financially independent. There are a myriad of careers open to English majors: teaching, business, law, writing, counseling etc., so I won't be completely broke and $150,000+ in debt from college/grad school tuition.</p>
<p>My parents (well, mom mostly) are pushy when it comes to what I want to major in or career goals, but in terms of grades/test scores, they're pretty lax. My folks actually thought my 1350 SAT I score was great, even though I was disappointed and wished I'd done much better.</p>
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The valedictorian of our school got a 1350. And she is really competitive. A lot of people think that is an excellent score. It's only when you come here that makes it seem the score isn't that great.</p>
<p>My dad cares more about me getting into a top notch school like stanford than a major, which does feel better because I can pick my own major.</p>
<p>My parents scolded me in Dec. when I got a 1200, so I retook in Jan. and got a 1350 and they were so proud.
They gave me a lot of appraisal, saying see what you can do when you study?</p>
<p>But... I studied for Dec. and got a low score.
They think I studied for Jan. (but I didn't)</p>
<p>I think most asian parents do push their kids and it shows in their grades. Why do you think the average SAT, grades, etc for asian kids are much higher than any other groups... cause of the parents who demand more. MOST parents who do not push their kids to their limits will have their kids end up anything but HYPSM..... or ivies or top 25. Granted , there are exceptions but the truth of the matter is, kids needed to be pushed. It is a kid's job to be successful in school, just like an adult's job to be successful to be successul working. If it werent for our pushy parents, then we would be like other minorities hoping to get accepted to good schools through the affirmative actions program. </p>
<p>GO ASIAN PARENTS!</p>
<p>hmm..and have you tried talking to said asian parents?
they're really rigid in their ways lol ;-)</p>
<p>"native american by blood"</p>
<p>That's practically Asian.</p>
<p>My dad who was an immigrant from Greece was that way. He'd beat me if I got anything lower than an A in my 1st, 2nd, 3rd grade classes. It was crazy.</p>
<p>If he were still around, I'd probably have straight A's right now. But I'd also be miserable. Maybe a run away. Don't really know.</p>
<p>grxkn - see now you know the power of pushy parents!</p>