Some Unsolicited Advice

<p>I know most of you students are busily working on completing your applications. From the tone of recent posts, you sound nervous albeit excited. </p>

<p>So, I thought it would be a good time for me to provide you with some unsolicited advice--hopefully it'll help you, but it'll also help the admission offices to which you're sending your stuff, which is why I'm doing this! </p>

<p>1) SUBMIT YOUR APPLICATION BEFORE THE DEADLINE, IF AT ALL POSSIBLE.</p>

<p>While you will not be penalized if yours is postmarked by (or arrives on) the deadline, there are some TINY advantages to your file arriving early. (a) As long as the other pieces of your application are there as well, yours may end up being reviewed in the first half of the process, when admission committee members are fresh and not overtired. As well, they have not read as many applications at that point. By the end of the process, it's hard not to compare the last few you're reading to the hundreds you already read, especially if your profiles are similar to a lot of students who have already been placed in the "admit pile." (b) It just helps the process if some mail starts to trickle in before the deadline, those who work in admission offices opening mail, entering it into the computer as being received, and filing it into candidates' folders, really appreciate getting some of this done ahead of time before the DELUGE of mail comes on the application deadline day.</p>

<p>2) BE SPECIFIC, BUT NOT OVER-THE-TOP, WHEN IT COMES TO LISTING YOUR EXTRACURRICULAR ACTIVITIES AND AWARDS. </p>

<p>No admission officer wants to see a six-page-long resume of a 13-year-old, nor do they want a binder full of Xeroxed copies of every certificate you've ever received since Kindergarten (especially that 3rd grade Physical Fitness Award)...but it's very helpful to have specific information related to your extracurricular activities and awards. </p>

<p>For example, you can list your top three extracurricular activities this way:</p>

<p>Piano, Flag Football, Babysitting</p>

<p>Or, you can list them this way:</p>

<p>Piano (seven years experience, weekly lessons); Flag Football (Smith High School Varsity Team, Co-Captain, four years experience; Detroit-Area AAU Team, starter, first year on AAU team); Babysitting (20 hours per week for neighborhood families, three years experience)</p>

<p>You should limit the list of any awards you've won to those won in the previous three years. For instance, if you're applying for Grade 9, any awards earned in 6th grade or higher are relevant. Anything prior to 6th grade is really meaningless by now. Similar to your extracurricular activities, specific information is appreciated:</p>

<p>"Science Award" means nothing to me. "Science Award (given to the most outstanding 7th grade student chosen by the 7th grade science teacher) is more helpful."</p>

<p>3) DON'T JUST USE SPELL-CHECK ON YOUR ESSAY. Your computer might not always catch common mistakes like their/there/they're, or simple typos like for/fore/four and admission officers do. :) Moreover, it's really disconcerting when you work for Academy A and the third to the last line of the student's essay says, "I believe that School S is the right place for me to pursue my passion in _______________." </p>

<p>4) SEND A SMALL PHOTO OF YOURSELF, EVEN IF THE APPLICATION DIDN'T ASK FOR ONE. It's much easier to read the files of students whom you've interviewed, just because you've actually MET those kids and you can picture them in your head while you read their files. However, most admission officers read more than just the files of the students whom they've interviewed. After reading dozens, then hundreds of files--which are full of words and letter grades and SSAT numbers and more words--it's fun to have a little visual stimulation now and again.</p>

<p>5) DO NOT OVERWHELM YOUR APPLICATION WITH EXTRANEOUS RECOMMENDATIONS. There is a saying in the admissions business, "The thicker the file, the thicker the kid." Admission officers don't need to read 12 recommendations about the same student, all saying the same things over and over again. The rule about EXTRA personal/extracurricular recommendations is this: if you think that person can write about you IN A DIFFERENT WAY than the other person who is writing your one REQUIRED personal/extracurricular recommendation, then have him/her send it in. For instance, let's say you're really into two things: FOOTBALL and OPERA SINGING. Both your flag football coach and your voice teacher know you very well, but you are a very different person in each setting. Your football coach sees the aggressive, go-get-'em-and-knock-'em-down side of you, but your voice teacher sees the more graceful, artistic side of you. Both recommendations will be helpful in the assessment of your application, and decidedly different from the other required recommendations (guidance counselor's, English teacher's, math teacher's). But, please don't send the required ones (guidance counselor, English, math), AND your football coach's, AND your voice teacher's, AND your 7th grade science teacher's, AND your 7th grade history teacher's, AND your father's co-worker's sister who just happened to go to Hotchkiss's, AND your state senator's, AND your next door neighbor's, and your mom's college roommate's daughter's. </p>

<p>Last, but not least, DO TAKE THE TIME TO ENJOY THIS BOARDING SCHOOL APPLICATION PROCESS. For many of you, this is the first time you've ever been asked to do this much self-reflection (in your essays and interviews). For many of you, this is the first time you've had in-depth discussions with your parent(s)/guardian(s) about something this big: the pros and cons about different schools under consideration, about the pros and cons about seeking an education far from home (at a boarding school) vs. staying at home and attending a public/day school. I think this is an exciting process, one that will benefit you in ways you cannot even imagine, even if you don't get admitted to your top-choice school. When it's all over, you will have gotten to know yourself better, hopefully this will have brought you closer to your parents, and you will have valuable life experience in interviewing skills, writing skills, researching skills, etc. </p>

<p>Best of luck. I hope the New Year brings you lots of "fat envelopes," health and much happiness.</p>

<p>"Last, but not least, DO TAKE THE TIME TO ENJOY THIS BOARDING SCHOOL APPLICATION PROCESS. For many of you, this is the first time you've ever been asked to do this much self-reflection (in your essays and interviews). For many of you, this is the first time you've had in-depth discussions with your parent(s)/guardian(s) about something this big: the pros and cons about different schools under consideration, about the pros and cons about seeking an education far from home (at a boarding school) vs. staying at home and attending a public/day school. I think this is an exciting process, one that will benefit you in ways you cannot even imagine, even if you don't get admitted to your top-choice school. When it's all over, you will have gotten to know yourself better, hopefully this will have brought you closer to your parents, and you will have valuable life experience in interviewing skills, writing skills, researching skills, etc. "</p>

<p>Never a statement more true. Thank you for posting this :]. It's very helpful, and also a moral booster!</p>

<p>Thanks for the great advice, GemmaV ! You are a true asset to this board.</p>

<p>I love every bit of this post- thank you so much. !!</p>

<p>love it! :)</p>

<p>Thanks for the words of wisdom</p>

<p>thanks so much :]</p>

<p>ohh and just wondering how many ec's do you think is enough?
i have several but i don't to talk about every single thing i've ever done since 6th grade :S</p>

<p>i don't think admissions officers look for quantity: they look for demonstrated passion in something and depth rather than 4538731 random things.. i'm just speaking from personal opinion, though. because seriously, 3 things for 10 years with passion demonstrated in essays, or 10 things for 3 years with little to no passion demonstrated in essays/interviews? you should be doing ECs that you enjoy, not just for polishing off the application (although there's nothing wrong with patching up a few fields you're weak with!)</p>

<p>Thanks OP~
Another question, do you think any candid picture will do or should it be a photography studio one?</p>

<p>Haha, that's the same question I just asked on another thread.</p>

<p>thank youu :)</p>

<p>The standard school photo is fine, if you have a spare (which you probably do since the standard packets include a lot of wallet sized). If you don't have one, a casual photo is okay too.</p>

<p>I think either a classic school photo or a casual photo is fine! As long as it's not of the student on a beach somewhere (remember admission officers are reading these in January and February in New England)....:)</p>

<p>I'm still recommending everyone get therapy after the 15th. The psychological damage of applications needs to be treated.</p>

<p>YES, italianboarder... therapy, and week vacation in Fiji.</p>

<p>haha! Can I come with you on the vacation? Make it a month though... :P</p>

<p>MMoynan, you lucky girl, I MISS YOU. I am having withdrawal pains without my daily dose of bombastic verbosity.</p>

<p>Some lady came over to my house for new years, complete and utter LAMB member, I thought of you and smiled. Also, check your e-mail, I sent you a picture, you will love it. Tis for the new year.</p>

<p>TO EVERYBODY ELSE:
Most of the pictures I own of myself are kind of "self-portraits" which I wouldn't want to send in, because they are pretty artsy, and it would look kind of pretentious and such.</p>

<p>I have a few pictures that I think may be OK, but I'm afraid they are too casual... would anybody be willing to tell me if they are acceptable for an admissions board to see?? Otherwise, I need to go take a few decent pictures... lol :].</p>

<p>very helpful. . . I especially appreciated the comments about the process and benefits over and above a college acceptance letter!
I sent a copy to my son as he continues to work so hard on his applications.
Thank you</p>

<p>I must second the point about proofreading and not just using spell-check for the essays. I would be a rich man if I had a dollar for every poster who misused your and you're on this board. Now, I know we all type quickly, and this is a casual forum, but I sometimes wonder if the errors here end up on essays. Check your grammar carefully. Sloppy errors can create a gray cloud over your application that could be detrimental.</p>