Son thinks he wants to come home

<p>It took my 3rd year junior lass than 48 hrs back at BS to unload about the stress and pressure of junior year. The whole thing has its periods of utter brutality. But I think the season between Tgiving and spring break is the absolute worst for most kids–they’re really on the toxin of it. If there’s anything you can do to brighten this window–showing up for an event or sending along something special–all the better. Continuously offering to be an ear is probably the best we can do. Having been through it myself, I just try to remind my son that it does get better, and the investment is worth it on the long run.</p>

<p>I may be in the minority here, but finishing up senior year with one and now in sophomore year with #2, both at top boarding schools, I would advise listening carefully. The great thing is that there are many roads to success. If he’s done with the coat and tie thing and just doesn’t feel like himself, and wants to return to local public school, I would be supportive. Boarding schools are opportunities, but there are downsides to them also. The small school is also a red flag. He may be right. It may be too small and a pressure cooker in addition to the benefit he derives from small classes. Looking back, we missed out on four years with our older son, that we can never get back. He by the way, thrived and is a four year Varsity Athlete and Scholar. All the same, my advice is to listen carefully and support HIS decision. Don’t try to convince him his unhappiness will pass, but rather let him know you trust his instincts and will stand by him no matter what. There is no wrong decision here to stay or come home. He will be successful given his talents and if he applies himself no matter what he will call alma mater.</p>