No. Just no.
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Iām thinking this must be a prank post, right? No follow-up word from OP.
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Thank you all for the advice and kind words. I have talked with my son and told him that an essay about his āhot dogā may not be the best of ideas. He started crying but I think in the end this was a very touching moment for the both of us that made us all the more close.
To everyone who said I should not have looked at my sonās essay: I respectfully disagree. @tsbna44 has excellent reasoning. What if my son was suicidal? What if he wanted to shoot up a school? What if he was secretly gay? These are things I need to know, especially since I pay his bills and put a roof over his head.
To @123Mom123 Iām a working mother who doesnāt just sit around all day on college confidential. Girl why do you keep referring back to this post. Cool your obsession please, especially with such a sensitive topic.
Thanks,
Liza
Iām glad that you and your son were able to talk. Vulnerability and intimacy are really tough for young adults.
As a mom, I have no idea what teen boys go through.
So I had read Rosalind Wisemanās Masterminds and Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World and then the version written by her male teen advisers for guys The Guide: Managing Douchebags, Recruiting Wingman, and Attracting Who You Want When my S24 was 13, he read this guide and gave it a thumbs up. I believe there were a suggestion in this book for kids to find an adult they can trust to talk to that is not the parent. 
Iām rooting for you and your son!
Does he have a college counselor at school who will read it & give advice? I donāt think you should have read it. FWIW, my daughter just went through this process & Iāve no idea what her essay was about & she did fine.
And not having actually read the essay myself Iāve no idea how it would actually be viewed. But if you think itās off putting maybe put a call in to the college counselor & ask how closely they monitor the essays.
Lol we donāt have college counselors, just a guidance counselor who has 300 students, they meet with each student for 15 minutes anc send transcripts.
The mature one is the kid. The immature one is the parent. One hopes this situation can be rectified before causing irreparable damage to the relationship. If this post is even real. Which I doubt.
OMG!!! To quote Joseph Conrad, "The horror! The horror!ā
Nope. No reason for you to know that before your hypothetical son is ready to tell you.
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Not buying this one. Closing thread.
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