<p>kyrptonosa: I wouldn't put it that harshly. For example, one of my pledge brothers was very conflicted about staying in Senior Haus, which he loved, and moving into our fraternity. I think most of us would have been very disappointed if he'd stayed in Senior Haus, but we would have understood. Likewise, I had another friend in Simmons who lived in his fraternity for a year, then moved back to Simmons simply because he preferred living in a dorm; but he still hung out at the house a fair bit, was active during Rush, etc.</p>
<p>Ultimately it's a personal choice. For me, moving to Skullhouse was a no-brainer, but I understand why others would be somewhat more conflicted.</p>
<p>"You don't -have- to live in fraternity housing, but staying in a dorm is essentially equivalent to giving your brothers the middle finger."</p>
<p>I also wouldn't put it that harshly, but I do know five people now who have chosen not to move into their respective houses their sophmore year (I do not live in a frat). There are mixed reactions to it as far as I can tell.</p>
<p>Two of them left their fraternity within the following the semester, both on bad terms. </p>
<p>Another was a part of a fraternity that required him to move in, so the only way to avoid it was to de-affiliate, but they amended their rules as he tried to leave and ended up staying. He's a senior now and has still not moved in.</p>
<p>A fourth stayed in the dorms because of academic difficulties he felt as if he was less distracted there.</p>
<p>And the fifth just chose to stay in the dorms with a large group of his friends. His fraternity was very understanding about it.</p>
<p>So, it depends on the reasons mostly. The two I know who left on bad terms did so more because they disliked the people there and the people disliked them. The others stayed in the dorms while staying in the fraternity because they declined moving in for valid reasons.</p>