<p>Hello;</p>
<p>I transferred from a CC to Miami University this semester and I moved in on Wednesday and I'm really starting to second guess my choice. I'm 5 hours from home and my family and it's really starting to depress me to the point where I'm lucky if I can go a day without crying.</p>
<p>I'm contemplating transferring out for next semester or next year to a school where I could commute from home. I think Miami is a "better" school, but at this point, I don't really care. Looking around, I definitely feel like I don't fit in. I tried to ignore the stereotypes coming here, but I really do stick out like a sore (black, casual, lower middle class) thumb, imo, from the people who come from money or are more outgoing than I am. </p>
<p>The upside to transferring to the lesser-known school is that I would have to take out fewer loans (something I should have payed closer attention to before I got here) and since I just recently changed my major a few weeks ago (after I had put down the deposit), it looks like I could finish my degree sooner at the other school than here. The reason I chose to go here was because I thought I wanted the "traditional college experience" but it feels really claustrophobic coming from a large city to a school in a town that exists mostly for the school. My roommates are all great, but I guess I miss commuting and having things more under my control at home than in a dorm situation and with scheduled everything in the dining halls and the library, etc. </p>
<p>But then I'd really feel like a loser/failure for coming all the way out here for a few months just to high tail it back home...</p>
<p>BTW, I want to go to graduate school for pharmacology or environmental sciences. At Miami I’m a microbiology major, but when I transfer, I’d want to just be biology. And I’ve recently found out after I’d already made my choice that graduate schools care more about grades, test scores, research experience, etc. than the name of the school. </p>
<p>(It also doesn’t help adjusting either that every time I talk to my mother, she’s always trying to get me to transfer to the closer school and crying about how she misses me, which makes me cry…)</p>
<p>Your mom is going to talk you into moving closer. She likes the “comfort” of it. But right now you’re in a position to really take advantage of growing up and becoming an adult. Comfort is the key word, you’re out of your comfort zone and its scary. Your not going to stay home your whole life(hopefully right?), so the sooner you get out of your comfort zone the stronger person you’ll be.</p>
<p>Traditional college experience involves many things, growing up and being independent is one of them. You’re looking at your situation with the wrong outlook. I don’t fit in, everyone has money, I’m far from home, people are more outgoing, etc. Don’t see yourself as a “loser,” try to see yourself as an underdog and develop your resilience.</p>
<p>There were things you liked about this school, why not focus and be happy about those things. You’ve made it! Doors are open, you just have to walk through it. :)</p>
<p>^^Even if I’ll finish faster and with less student loan debt at the closer school? I have maxed out my unsub and sub loans to go here and still need to pay $2k out of pocket, as opposed to taking out fewer loans at the other school and not needing to pay anything out of pocket, or paying the same amount that I do here, while still taking out fewer loans.</p>
<p>I don’t plan on living at home forever (I would like an apartment in my home city as it is where I want to go to the graduate school I want to attend and in close proximity to a VA hospital and two top hospitals for research internships and future employment as their starting salaries are really high).</p>
<p>I typically can get used to things pretty quickly, but I’m not a big fan of dorm life and how super structured this school is for a lot of things and like having things more in my own control, specifically things like when I eat and sleep.</p>
<p>I was really excited to come here, but I never toured the campus until move-in day, so I didn’t really know besides from Google pictures what I was getting in to. I’m also worried about my scholarships. They’re renewable now for just three semesters even though it’ll take twice that long to get my degree. I called and asked months before I got here and was told that they’re typically really lenient about renewing them on a case-by-case basis, but it still makes me a little uneasy (I guess now because I’m looking for any excuse to get the hell out of here). Oh, goodness…■■■</p>
<p>Money issue has some weight but like you admitted, you are looking for things to move you back home. Those issues you knew about before you got there. Try to focus on the positives, get to know the people around you. You never know, you may find some incredible friends. There is always something to do, you didn’t choose Miami of all places to just hang out at the dorms. When I moved out of home there was constantly things to do(and on the real I went from LA to Davis lol, technically backwards but new people and new location is always fun), retracting isn’t the way to handle your situation.</p>
<p>Some people can’t learn to drive a manual because they don’t want to. If you want to enjoy your new place, then you’re going to need that desire.</p>
<p>i think the sole fact that you just started should be valid enough for you to stay and give it a chance longer. the transition from CC to university far away probably hasn’t caught up to you yet! you can do it, miami will grow on you and you will definitely find your niche!
i think a lot of transfer students/students going far away feel homesick in the beginning but many end up loving it after a semester.</p>