<p>British</a> Adults Taking Longer to Fly Nest - Yahoo! Finance</p>
<p>This has been a long time problem in Italy as well...sons that are happy to stay home, mom does the cooking etc, sons have low paying jobs and may or may not have degrees ....</p>
<p>This is normal for many asian cultures.</p>
<p>Extremely normal here in the South. Many 50 year olds still living with mom and dad.</p>
<p>NPR did a story a while ago about delays in maturity…how the 20 something/30 something guys aren’t interested in careers, families, homes etc…</p>
<p>Ha, ha…in Italy, they are known as Mamonies! (not quite sure of the spelling of that–it was a segement on 60 minutes a few years back). Needless to say, this whole thing cracked us up as husband is Italian. We know some Mamonies in Jersey.</p>
<p>Must do wonders for the parents sex life.
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<p>We have two neighbors here that just bought the houses next door to them for their kids, just to get them out of the house. I was driving by the other day and one of the “boys” (27 year old state trooper) was walking to Mom’s house with laundry. Since I know he has his own laundry room this made me giggle. She confirmed over coffee next day that she also makes his dinner most nights as well. This man is in need of a 1950s housewife.</p>
<p>Maybe i will suggest that strategy to a relative. They have had their five kids living with them heading into the third decade soon.</p>
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<p>Problem for who?</p>
<p>Son has been commenting on the variety of foods that he’s trying out - I was pretty shocked that he’s cooking food on his own (he has an incredible variety of food available to him at local restaurants).</p>
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<p>How many ladies would want to live next door to their MIL?</p>
<p>^ I know I wouldn’t but it may would mean a free babysitter when the kids come. With all the foreclosures around here, I think it is a nice idea, but wouldn’t want to do it for my own DS.</p>
<p>Is this really a problem, or is it the return to a normal situation?</p>
<p>A couple of generations ago, it was normal and expected for a young adult to live with his or her parents until marriage unless either the young person or the parents moved to another part of the country.</p>
<p>The idea of a young adult getting an apartment in the same metropolitan area where the parents live would have seemed bizarre to many people in our parents’ generation.</p>
<p>It’s only a problem when the famiilies and/or students feel it is. A lot has to do with expectations. I have one who is at home, actually this summer, I ‘ll have a lot of them at home, and I do wish my oldest finds his own place. It’s been difficult having a young adult who has been living on his own move back to his parents’ home.</p>
<p>Britian has been reporting this as an issue for awhile…I think they call is “laddism”. Male adults who don’t really want to grow up.</p>
<p>I don’t think it compares to other cultures that just don’t believe an adult child should pay rent (waste money) living elsewhere. In those cultures, many of the adult children are working and financially contributing a bit to the household (or saving for a home). </p>
<p>In my dad’s Italian family, adult children (even the married ones!) lived with parents while saving to buy homes. Paying rent was considered a wasteful thing to do.</p>
<p>My dad and his brothers lived at home well into their 20s. They were all fully employed, saved money, invested money, gave a bit to the parents, and then bought homes and got married.</p>
<p>I looked up the 60 minutes episode–it is mammonis. The episode aired in 2001 (ok, that freaks me out as I thought it was just a few years ago). In this episode, they were talking about the adult men who didn’t move out because they had it so good at home with the mamas, doing the laundry for them, cooking for them, etc.</p>
<p>I grew up in the UK. Both H and I stayed at home till we got married and we moved in to our first apartment together. ( 1988) Same story for most of our friends. Commuted to university and then saved hard when we graduated for 2 years to buy the apartment. There are no large apartment type complexes in the UK so not very normal for young people to move out and rent unless they move away from their hometown for college/ work.</p>
<p>I am never going to let my son leave me. I will take care of his precious self as long as possible.</p>
<p>Or until he gets on the absolute last nerve, whichever comes first.</p>
<p>I wonder why it’s the boys only? I assume the girls are moving out?</p>
<p>In our area, the boys, even the brilliant ones, are encouraged to take the free ride to any school, preferably the local state flagship. The girls, especially the smart ones, are encouraged to go to the expensive private colleges, and the parents are willing to incur debt for them to do that. The boys usually move back home with mom and dad, work in the family business or teach at the local high school, regardless of their degree earned, and the girls are encouraged to study abroad, again, the parents funding the process. I can only assume it is an archaic mindset of the girl finding an affluent husband, the old “get your MRS at college”, and the boy is let go to college to sow his oats until he comes home to assume the head of the family roll.</p>
<p>My relative has both boys & girls at home.
My SIL still has her 28 yr old daughter living with her, but as an only child, and since her parents relatively recent divorce, i think she feels protective of her.
I have a sibling who lived with my mother for a bit over a year,with their spouse, while their new home was being built,but my mother also had a psychotic break during that time- something that i dont think was unrelated. :(</p>
<p>On the other hand my friend who has a special needs child, has successfuly found a support home for her to live at 22! She loves being able to take a walk after dinner and her daughter seems to love her new home.</p>