<p>Yes, long distance relationships are hard.
No, they're not impossible; they can work out.</p>
<p>However, whether or not it's possible or too hard really is not the question. What you should be asking yourself is "Is it wise to stay in this relationship?" I was in a relationship for three years.. and for two of those three we lived 1,000 miles apart. It was hard, but it was okay. We said we were gonna get married too. However, after the fact, I've realized how much I missed out on by sitting around missing him. When I was with him, I didn't mind not going out very much and just staying at home talking on the phone, but now, I really wished we wouldn't have stayed together, and that I would've gone out with friends more. (btw, the reason we broke up had nothing to do with the distance.)</p>
<p>You will meet tons of people in college, and it's really a time to be yourself, be indepedent, try new things. You could certainly still do all of that with a bf/gf, but most likely, you won't. Not as much, anyway.</p>
<p>I'm preaching to myself here, too, btw. My boyfriend of the past year broke up with me since I'm going away to college this year. I wanted more than anything to stay with him, and I had no plan of not going out with friends and such even though we'd be together... However, in my mind, even though I have a hard time convincing myself, I know being single, is the best and wisest thing for me to do right now.</p>
<p>And, if it's meant to be, you'll end up together one way or the other. (I know that's not something you wanna hear.. if you wanna end up with someone, you don't wanna be apart at all.) I've heard close to a dozen people lately tell me that they or someone they knew were apart for a couple years before they got back together and got married. And those seem to be some of the strongest relationships too.</p>
<p>In general, I would say if you want to stay together, it's perfectly possible as long as you truly love each other and are completely honest. Completely.</p>
<p>However, in your particular case, since you said you had looked forward to clubbing, partying, etc., I think you should probably end it. If you still want to do those things, you'll either grow to resent her for not doing them, do them anyway and feel guilty, or do them anyway and not feel guilty, which isn't fair to her, since you said she wouldn't want you to do them.</p>
<p>No one but you can make the decision, but it should ultimately boil to "What is the wise thing to do?" Not "What will hurt the least?" or "What is easiest thing to do?", but "What, in the long run, is the wise thing to do?" (It's tough, I know.. but it's definitely worth it.)</p>
<p>You can e-mail or IM me if ya wanna ask me anything else.</p>