I will address the issues of “which college” when I have a free moment, but if this is an issue, I strongly, strongly, strongly suggest you reconsider the plan for a career in academia, or at the barest minimum come up with a Plan B.
- The life of a physics professor is not hanging out in the faculty lounge in a tweed jacket smoking a pipe. It is a constant hustle for resources: funding, telescope time, whatever. Anxiety issues do not help.
- Only a small fraction of physics PhDs get academic position. He will be competing with people who are getting into the schools now that you think he won’t be able to get into. The competition gets worse with time, not better. This will not help with anxiety.
- Sometimes things just happen. The night you get telescope time, it rains. The accelerator explodes and takes a year to repair. You just got scooped on the paper you’ve been working on for a year. Your postdoc - the one person who can make the laser (fridge, whatever) work has just gone on family leave.
Severe anxiety is a terrible thing to add to this mix.