<p>Cliques are an unfortunate part of high school. I was wondering if such cliques occur in college or is everybody mature enough to move past these cliques? I have a small, close-knit group of friends and I am in no way considered popular. However, I am well-liked and I try to be nice to every group of students in my school. I wear flannels and plaid button downs usually and I listened to really good music. Will I have a hard making friends in college? What are some 4 year, urban colleges that house students like myself? I really enjoy Temple, Pittsburgh, and Cincinnati. Can you think of any other urban type colleges?</p>
<p>Yeah, you’re a complete dork who will never make friends. You’re better off honing your basement-dwelling skills and abandon all hope at a normal social life just because cliques exist everywhere. /sarcasm</p>
<p>Cliques exist everywhere, and while they may be less common in college than highschool, they’re still a part of academia. I don’t even see why you’re so against them, but good luck I guess?</p>
<p>ahhhh…i don’t basement dwell…i go out with friends. i am nice to everyone</p>
<p>The trick is to form your own clique and make everyone jealous</p>
<p>The reason why people may dislike cliques because it can form a hierarchy, where the “popular” clique is at the top and the rest are in descending order. It can create jealousy and self-esteem issues but these may arise with or without cliques. It also makes people feel as if they are stuck to one group. Like, you may fear being ostracized by your Drama friends if you start hanging out with the “slacker” clique along with your “theatre” clique.</p>
<p>Cliques will always exist no matter where you go. In school, the workplace, in clubs, even amongst your friends. They aren’t as established and noticable once you leave high school, but that doesn’t mean you have no chance of making friends. What type of music do you listen to specifically? Mainstream or more underground selections? If it’s the latter, don’t worry, there’re others who like underground music. Be sociable and be yourself, and you should find friends quickly.</p>
<p>Well I go to Temple. It’s like most other schools in the country; Asians stick together, internationals stick together, etc. Overall, though, people are very friendly and wont ignore people outside their circle of friends.</p>
<p>happycowlover- I listen to both mainstream and underground selections, but I would consider myself normal. I wear both American Eagle polos and American Apparel hoodies. </p>
<p>diontechristmas- Are you the basketball player for Temple? I am huge fan. I love sports and attending a college with decent to amazing sports is important to me.</p>
<p>No, I’m not the actual Dionte Christmas. Several people on here think I am, though. If you have any questions about TU, PM me.</p>
<p>Aren’t cliques just technically a group of friends? I doubt most people come together with intentions of starting an exclusive secret-knock-required-entry clique. The people who usually see them as cliques are those who aren’t in it.</p>
<p>Why would the real Dionte Christmas be on CC?</p>
<p>Alright, enough with the “there are no cliques in college” mantra. Not true. At least, not in the traditional sense where the jocks make fun of the nerds and all that crap. In college, you’ll still have the theater kids being friends with the theater kids and the lacrosse kids being friends with the lacrosse kids. It’s all about what activities you do and what your interests are.</p>
<p>The difference is that in college no one cares about what clique you’re in anymore.</p>
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<p>Because people on here are very naive. Someone wished me good luck in the NBA.</p>
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<p>I feel like this ^ is a perfect example of some people’s unwillingness to read past OPs. No one even said “there are no cliques in college”.</p>
<p>In response to the OP, I don’t think “moving past cliques” is a sign of maturity…I also don’t think people ever move apart from them. Like PlattsburghLoser said, “cliques” are mainly just a tight knit group of friends. Nearly everyone has one. It’s not like the movies where the “popular cliques” are totally exclusive; people will hang out with whomever their personalities mesh. There are just a certain few with whom you’ll spend more of your time.</p>
<p>So basically, no I don’t think cliques disappear nor do I feel they’re a bad thing. And don’t worry. I’ve been told over and over again that it’s practically impossible not to find someone with similar interests in college. You’ll be fine.</p>
<p>Why do people talk about cliques so much? You’ll have your group of friends, of course. You’ll meet people outside that group that are friendly. I guess there are people who are more well-known on campus, ones that run for things like homecoming king and queen and other popularity contests. But how are they going to get to you if you don’t go out of your way to fall in love with them and try to earn their affection? </p>
<p>The people that talk about the horrors of cliques are the ones that create drama for themselves.</p>
<p>I have a clique sort of. Me and my best friends always doing something together. Sometimes with a larger circle of friends but if I was going to do something/have a party those three would always be on the list. </p>
<p>That’s what I consider a clique.</p>
<p>It’s not like Mean Girls where they all have to like fashion and date the hottest guys and do the same things. My friends and I like completely different things and disagree over basically everything.</p>
<p>Other than obvious cliques that form simply due to the amount of time they’re forced to spend together (e.g. athletes, drama kids, band kids, engineers), there are two main cliques that I’ve noticed in my university.</p>
<p>There are kids who come to their first year of university with a lot of friends because their prestigious prep school sends up to 5-10 students a year to top universities. Moreover, they have an established prep school alumni network of upperclassmen at the university. These kids can hit the ground running when it comes to social access.</p>
<p>Then there are the rest of the kids who come to university not knowing anybody. They’re very open to making new friends and they essentially start from scratch once they enter college with no high school connections.</p>
<p>There can be crossover between the two groups, but the existence of the two groups can be easily seen.</p>
<p>Being socially successful in college is heavily based on social circle dynamics.</p>
<p>At my school, the koreans only ever hang out with other koreans, but for the most part there aren’t really any cliques.</p>
<p>Since nobody has mentioned it yet, at some schools there are very strong greek (frat/sorority) systems. Not only can non-members feel left out, but there is a pecking order even within the houses.</p>
<p>sorry homerun1992, honestly you sound really fake… saying you listen to cool music and such and think that being materialistic will take you far places :/</p>