<p>run2: It’s great that you’re opening up and talking on this thread. I hope you’ve read all the way through, and with particular attention to Kristin’s long posts. </p>
<p>Another important point that has been made is that there are many lesser known schools that have virtually all of the same characteristics as elite schools. Look at what you like about schools and then search (or ask here) for ones that maybe are less famous, maybe a step lower in selectivity, maybe in slightly less glamorous locations, and you can be very happy. Safeties don’t just mean going to the usual state schools, or giving up all of the things you want. </p>
<p>I will say that past the prestige factor probably the hardest thing about going to a low match or safety school is that by definition you will be in the top group of students there. This can be true for anyone - my D is .5 higher in GPA and 5 points higher in ACT than the average applicant to her safety, and she’s not a valedictorian - and it’s a legitimate worry, if we’re concerned about intellectual rigor. </p>
<p>But time after time we are told of the wonderful, exciting things that happen at schools that supposedly aren’t as rigorous or whose atmosphere is less intellectually oriented. We all know incredibly motivated and accomplished people at lesser known, lower stat schools. So as Kristin tells us, we’ll all have to accept that this feeling is a chip on our shoulder that we’ll just have to push aside. </p>
<p>Just as there are extremely intelligent and capable people at schools where you wouldn’t expect them, there also are apathetic and incapable people at schools that are supposed to have “only the best.” People are people, and there is an aspect where college will be college. If schools resemble each other in terms of programs, size, location, etc., we have to have faith the fact that the selectivity is a few notches different will not in the long run make that much of a difference.</p>
<p>Find a safety that you like, so you can go to college. That’s presumably the most important goal of anyone here, and it’s the only one whose outcome you can control.</p>