I’ve actually read most of the advice given on the thread. I’m only deflecting the advice that I don’t need, like getting professional advice and not being on track. I’m doing ECs I enjoy, getting good grades, and enjoying myself @TQfromtheU. Many posts have said I don’t care about others but I do. I care about myself and people close to me, nothing wrong about that @snowfairy137. People saying it’s weird I’m not going to school. It’s actually not. Finals are over and it’s decompression time. I will stop doing the things I’m doing due to many reasons. The criticism has helped @Kabasi.
How do the people you bullied feel? You haven’t mentioned them
I’m also curious about the reaction of " the people you care about"…presumably your parents.
One reason people are reacting negatively to you here is because you don’t show empathy or remorse in your responses. It is important to be able to see things from other people’s perspective to avoid conflicts with them. A counselor can give you tools to get along with others, avoid trouble, and succeed in life. I think you should speak to a therapist, a pastor, or other upstanding adult for guidance. If the first adult you approach doesn’t help you, keep trying until you find someone who will.
We understand why you reject our observations and advice. You’re quite young.
But it’s wrong to bully, in the first place, seen by many as a warning sign. And you say it’s been ongoing, not a one time misunderstanding.
One sign of maturity us when one can self examine and get some professional perspective. Not just repeat “I’m fine, I do things I enjoy, etc.” Bullying is wrong.
I know it’s wrong that’s why I’ll stop.@NYmommabear I already am succeeding in life. It was just a mistake I did. @bjkmom They were fine with it. They just told me this better be the last time. @veruca I don’t know. It was just mistake that led to a 3 day suspension. I just wanted to know how it’ll affect my college applications, not any of this.
Not any of what? Judgement? I think your first priority should be your victims. Not your college prospects. I would hope you wouldn’t be at the same college as my children.
OK, you want to know how it will effect college applications, so I’ll keep the judgements out.
Problem number one: A three day suspension is a big deal. It means the administration of your school felt the offense was serious enough that pulling you from school was more important than those three days of instruction. It means they considered in house suspension, a single day, and two days, and felt that none of those reactions matched the seriousness of the offense. This is not likely to be seen by anyone but you as “just a mistake.” There are a whole list of options that come before a 3 day suspension, and your offense was serious enough that they weren’t taken.
Problem number two: you indicate that this is part of an ongoing behavior pattern. That probably indicates that your guidance folder is already filling up, and not in a good way. It means that in 2 years, when your guidance counselor starts to look at her rising seniors in order to write them letters of recommendation, yours will be tricky. She’ll do the best she can, of course; we all want the best opportunities for our kids, even those with spotty records, in the hope that they’ll grow up in college-- a lot do. But the reality is that she’s got to write the truth; she’s not going to risk her professional reputation on any one kid. So she’ll stick to the facts: Bobbybob444555 has an average of ___, participated in the following sports or activities, and so on. The very best she’ll be able to write is something along the lines of “After a rough start, Bobbybob444555 really grew up as a Sophomore. He began to take responsibility for his actions, and to take the needs and feelings of others into account”— that’s best case. Worst case is a simple listing of your grades and activities; the adcoms will know what’s missing and can connect the dots on their own.
Problem number three: If I’m reading this correctly, the odds are good that you already have a bit of a reputation around your school— and again, not in a good way. That means you’re less likely to be chosen for any of those special opportunities along the way that help enhance an application. Any of the positions of leadership tend to go to those kids who have built positive reputations. Anything requiring student input will also be off the table, as kids, even those who haven’t been victimized by a bully, tend to hate bullies.They fully understand the idea of “There but for the grace of God go I…” So all those things that can help beef up an otherwise weak resume may be off the table, or at best a long shot.
And when top tier adcoms read, “He began to take responsibility for his actions, and to take the needs and feelings of others into account,” they will know what it really means, will read between the lines.
You’re going to need to become a model citizen and work 3x as hard to show good nature.
And the problem is, you likely have no idea what that means.
@lookingforward I do know what it means. You wouldn’t know since you don’t know me.
@bjkmom My reputation isn’t the best in the school but I have a few teachers that actually like me.
Everything I read now that the OP has said sounds like disrespectful and negatively quick-witted in my head. You need to change whatever is going on and fast. This is not fair to the kids you bullied and I highly recommend that you take the great ideas of @lookingforward @TQfromtheU @Kabasi and many others, because frankly its in your best interest. You should figure out if you need professional help or some guidance at school from a counselor, but turn it around fast before you totally and completely your academic future and reputation! I’ve had friends with the same problem, and to paint you a picture, change it real fast because you don’t want this to effect your whole life. Also change your attitude, keep that around and no one will want to help you. I wish you the best of luck, and I really hope you take everyone’s great and amazing advice into consideration to help you as a person and in your future academic endeavors, whether that be college and even career! Good luck!!! 
@Kabasi You haven’t looked through all my posts apparently.
@writer80 No need to fix what isn’t broken. I don’t need to figure out if I need help because I don’t need any help.
@colonelkiyo I was the one provoking.
What grade are you in, are you ending your freshman year? If so, this could be the beginning of a marvelous behavioral turnaround that colleges will respect come senior year and your college app essay.
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Apparently the sole purpose of this thread is for the OP to contradict people who are trying to help. The advice given looks solid to me, so I think the OP has enough to think about. Therefore, I see no reason to continue the discussion. Closing thread.