<p>In school there is a boy who would crack jokes on me because of my skin color. Last Friday June 15th 2012 he slapped me in the back of my neck really hard and then told me if i tried to hit him back in his neck he would back hand me. I waited till after class and hit him on his neck like he did to me. After i slapped him in his neck he slapped me in the face. When i got slapped the whole thing escalated into a fight. The Dean gave me 3 days of suspension for a scuffle. This is my first time getting into a fight in school ever. I want to know if this would ruin my chances into getting into college because of this one fight i had.</p>
<p>I’m not a lawyer, and I do not know about these things on school records.</p>
<p>I don’t know how colleges see something like this. </p>
<p>Assuming this stays on your record, the point is, now that it is done- what will you learn from it, or do about it? There will be an opportunity to explain it on your application. The college has an obligation to protect all students and would not admit anyone with a tendency towards violence. So it is your job to show that this was a one time, youthful event, not a way to solve conflict. </p>
<p>Colleges will also sometimes ask about diversity, or any adversity faced. Being taunted about your skin color is part of that, but what is important is how you learn to handle this in a non violent way. What that student did was unacceptable, but unfortunately one can not always control the behaviors of others. Dealing with conflict between people is a valuable skill.</p>
<p>I’m not a college official, but as an adult I would want to see you demonstrate what you learned and how you matured from this. Perhaps you can turn this into a leadership opportunity- mentoring youths in your community, being on a multicultural group at your school. Turn it into growth and it may be described as a changing moment for you… and do not repeat it another time. Also, seek adult help- a pastor, guidance counselor, employer, or other community leader who can help you find ways to resolve conflicts and vouch for your good behavior in a recommendation…</p>
<p>Thanks for your thoughts</p>
<p>You’re welcome and good luck to you in your future plans.</p>