<p>Have you ever been turned off by an adcom who is a little too blatant about the school's needs? Do you have any anecdotes e.g. where adcom came right out and said of a waitlisted child "if you say yes, he/she will get off the waiting list". Or perhaps situations where you felt adcom was measuring your development potential and dropping hints. I wonder if some schools stand out more than others in taking such an approach?</p>
<p>If you do have an anecdote, please explain how it ended. Did you compromise so that your child has more options? Or did you just walk away jaded? I'm curious.</p>
<p>the weird thing is that she is very good friends with my friends mom and probably knew that since we had a) applied the same year b) come from the same very small school and c) came together to the reception the year before</p>
<p>It's just kind of funny that she was so cold especially with the connection</p>
<p>another interviewer (she was really chill and that interview went great) made a comment to my parents that the school I go to is great and people usually don't leave unless they have some sort of problem and then don't usually get in. that was where I got waitlisted, so maybe my school's rep just changed a bit</p>
<p>One adcom we met up with inadvertantly while touring the campus told my son he didn't even need a formal interview because she was already so impressed with meeting him informally. She also told my son they had a "big gold star" next to his name. Both my son and myself were taken aback and did not really know what to think.</p>
<p>If this aloofness was particularly noticeable regarding the connection, that suggests to me that the AdCom was using an abundance of caution not to create a false impression that there was an "inside" track for you. If you didn't feel comfortable about your chances of getting in as a result of the connection, then I think that she achieved her objective. I don't think there was a signal that you were in trouble or were destined for the wait list. To the contrary, she might have acted that way to make sure you gave your very best effort and took nothing for granted when you applied. </p>
<p>Now that last part...I could be way off base about, but I'm fairly confident of the first part and the fact that the disconnect you felt was probably founded on a sense of propriety and not a personal axe to grind with you.</p>
<p>I wasn't expecting anything because despite how many times they had had dinner together my friend still got rejected (she was a qualified applicant, which is proof that you never know). I wasn't thinking I would get in because of it, but after I thought her mood was a little weird and that she could have been friendlier. </p>
<p>I don't know if it was just her, but compared to cj from milton she was very cold. even compared to that school's director of admissions (he hugged me a lot, which was a different sort of awkward) she was cold. </p>
<p>it's completely fine with me to stay at kent place (I really love it here), but there are little things like this that make me wonder what exactley I did to not get in. If it's a 69 on the ssat or my math grade that's one thing, but I don't think I said anything "wrong" during the interview</p>