<p>My D applied for regular admission to a school that has a 1/1 deadline. She got all of her paperwork in on time, but one of her teachers still has not sent in her recommendation. He told my daughter he would do it, but I think he is just swamped and doing it in his own time. He is aware of the deadline.</p>
<p>We sent an email to the college to warn them that the rec is coming.</p>
<p>Has this happened to anyone else? What happened? Are colleges flexible about this? My daughter's guidance counselor asked her not to pester the teacher.</p>
<p>As a teacher and a parent, I also believe that schools are much more lenient on the adults in the application process than they are on the students maintaining the deadlines. They know that teachers are busy with rec letters and, oh yeah, their teaching obligations, so they allow time for the letters to arrive. I would keep it in the back of my mind if I were you, but I would not fret.</p>
<p>I’ve heard before that colleges who are picky with deadlines for the actual applicant will give more leeway for teacher recs and things that are out of your control.</p>
<p>I think if I were in your shoes, I would call (or have D call) the colelge to ask just how much of an extension they will give on this - get a firm deadline for when the teachers rec will simply not be seen. I would then communicate this to the teacher in a dispassionate and non judgmental way. Maybe an email to the teacher saying, “Thanks once again for agreeing to provide a letter of recommendation for me - I am very excited about college. I have communicated with College U and have learned that if they don’t have your recommendation by Jan 15, they will be unable to include it in my application package.”</p>
<p>Does she have any other teachers she could ask at the last minute? </p>
<p>This must be so frustrating for you and your daughter!</p>
<p>Ditto the above. S’s guidance counselor told him that the schools allow extra time for the recs and transcripts to arrive. I think they try to be reasonable.</p>
<p>Just contact the college & let them know it is on the way. Maybe a polite nudge to the teacher — colleges are well aware teachers have full time jobs and manny recommendations to write — as well as families who make their own demands over Christmas holiday.</p>
<p>The application deadline is for the student to submit their part of the application. As long as your daughter submitted her part of the application, everything is fine.<br>
Franglish is right, that colleges will extend a professional courtesy to teachers/counselors to get their part of the application in and will send a gentle reminder if it is late. </p>
<p>However, the teacher recommendation is not late. IF your D is applying RD to college, the teacher/counselor deadline is still weeks away.</p>
<p>I think a reminder by email is a good way. Also, hopefully your daughter gave this teacher at least 6 weeks and therefore this reminder should not seem pushy.</p>
<p>MomofDaughter-listen to your D’s guidance counselor and do not pester the teacher!
Also read post #7 and listen to sybbie’s advice. This is in her field of expertise.</p>
<p>Yes, agree, don’t pester the teacher about it. One way though to gently remind is to do a mid-period thank you card (that’s what they called it at my HS). Just have your D write a card that says Thanks so much for agreeing to write my recommendation, I am glad to have your support. Just a small reminder that the deadline is XX day. Thanks again. Cards can be nicer and less annoying than reminder emails.</p>