<p>“She might think we’re all a bunch of wierdo creepers…”</p>
<p>Yea, pretty much… ha, ha.</p>
<p>John.</p>
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<p>Hung up on status? Didn’t I just say upthread that I’m steering my kids away from certain schools and towards others based on impressions of fit, and that anyone who has ever read my postings knows I don’t give a @#$*(& what the neighbors think??</p>
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<p>I agree. John, I really do suggest you look through this book. It opened my eyes to a few places I wouldn’t have otherwise considered, and some that my family will be touring this year. </p>
<p>I also think that if you can get her past the cold-weather issue, you may find a bigger world opening up to you.</p>
<p>"Didn’t I just say upthread that I’m steering my kids away from certain schools and towards others based on impressions of fit, and that anyone who has ever read my postings knows I don’t give a @#$*(& what the neighbors think?? "</p>
<p>Yea, you did. Which is why I can’t understand why you continue to compare TSU with other schools when all I asked for here was info about TSU…</p>
<p>Can you not see that? It’s right there. In front of your eyes…</p>
<p>And (for the thousandth time…) I am not the one who limited her search. If anything, I’ve tried and tried to expand it. I thought she should have applied to Washington U., because I knew she liked the area and the campus. I thought she should have applied to Rice, to Southwestern, to Trinity, and to a whole bunch of other schools for Pete’s sake…</p>
<p>If I were in her shoes, knowing what I know now, I would feel like I was sitting on a winning lottery ticket. She has incredible potential. Her mom and I can see that even if she cannot…</p>
<p>However, I started this thread because SHE could only be bothered to apply for TWO colleges. TSU and UT. That’s it. One of those two offered her a scholarship. So I would like more information about that one… Please :D</p>
<p>Telling me to reconsider isn’t very helpful, unless of course you want to drive down here and speak with her yourself?</p>
<p>John.</p>
<p>“I also think that if you can get her past the cold-weather issue, you may find a bigger world opening up to you…”</p>
<p>I know that’s intended to be helpful, but what you may not realize is that I graduated HS in Mass, and we spent the last 6 years in Illinois. So we’re all over that one ;)</p>
<p>I’m afraid the girl actually has enough information there to know what she likes and doesn’t like… </p>
<p>She prefers “warm” … very much so.</p>
<p>Pizzagirl, I’m sure you are trying to be helpful, but I’ve decided that your whole involvement in this thread would cease if you could no longer direct it toward choosing the “right” school. </p>
<p>Without specific information about TSU, I’m afraid you’re left somewhat empty-handed. </p>
<p>Hey, that’s O.K.! You’ll get the next one!</p>
<p>Thanks.</p>
<p>John.</p>
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<p>limbwalker- Did it ever occur to you that even if your daughter matriculates at Texas State, it might not work out. Many kids wind up transferring. This thread, and the advice on other schools that might be good for your daughter, could be very helpful at that time. I’ve gone back to old threads on CC a number of times. I wouldn’t be so arrogant and dismissive towards those posters who suggest other schools.</p>
<p>Pizzagirl- watch out. He’ll put you on “Ignore”!</p>
<p>Interesting that this thread has gotten such traction. Probably because of (a) discussions of lesser known schools can be interesting and helpful to many posters (b) its entertainment value (c) the OP keeps bumping it back up when it fades to page 2, LOL and (d) many kids choose different schools for a variety of different reasons. This has been discussed many, many times on cc. Students may have boyfriends/girlfriends the want to be near, some have health issues and need to stay close to home, need to help out parents or family, want to follow the first and/or best $$ offer, or simply are not ready to cut the cord. There are surely as many reasons as there are students. </p>
<p>Looking back at the original paragraph of the original post, the statement was made
Seems to me that while the OP was asking about TSU, it was perfectly reasonable for posters to assume he was curious about other schools, as he acknowledges she “could have done better”. But somehow listing “better” schools has become synonymous to the OP with " status" or “prestige” (which he later claimed he didnt even know what that was). That seems inaccurate. This discussion is more about openness to new thoughts, ideas and suggestions from many very knowledgable posters, generous with their time and information and for anyone who chooses to read or post in this thread. The OP said his daughter was smart but lazy (or maybe unmotivated-- I forget) and came by her A’s easily, with little effort. Perhaps that is what is comfortable to her, and there may be fear of being the middle of the top rather than the top of the middle. This is not a criticism. There is nothing wrong with that. Fine. And there are many CEO’s of many big companies that went to no-name or low tier undergrad schools. Happens all the time. (There’s a list of them somewhere here on CC-- maybe someone can find that link) There are, what, 3000 colleges and universities in the US, and only 50 or so in the “top tiers” (LAC or University)? That means the vast majority of students go to these OTHER schools, for whatever their reason. Cost, job, partner, family, its all good. That was never the issue. </p>
<p>If she wants to pick a school that will pay her a lot of money (no complaints there) she can continue to earn good grades with little effort (as stated by the OP) , and doesnt have to risk being intimidated by students who are at least as smart if not some who are smarter than she, whats wrong with that? Except for those once-a-month rude “idiot” comments (thats really gross and TMI, but at least she has an excuse, unlike some 
) maybe she isn’t as closed-minded as is being presented of her. Who knows. I wouldnt be surprised if the OP’s dau was the opposite of her fa, in that she may be as noncompetitive as he is competitive. Food for thought. If this thread has helped other readers (lots of lurkers swarm to threads where there is a lot of sparring) then its work is done. Then again, there are those posters who enjoy the mental aspect of play as much or more than the physical, eh bb?</p>
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<p>Few would consider me to be an authoritarian parent and my kids were allowed to choose which college to attend when the acceptances were all in. And they were allowed to apply to any colleges they wanted. But they were required to apply to a few my husband and I picked out first. And one kid was required to go to an admitted students weekend at a school he knew he did not want to attend before being allowed to accept his first choice. That seemed pretty fair to me.</p>
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<p>John, isn’t that what you posted? So it’s not unreasonable for us to comment on places where she might indeed do better.</p>
<p>EDIT: Cross posted with someone else.</p>
<p>john - you are kind of being a tool.</p>
<p>you can come to the thread over and over and say “don’t post on my thread unless you are answering only the specific question i asked.” that is not the way internet forums typically work.</p>
<p>so have fun trying to control what people post on “your” thread.</p>
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<p>Oh, Alh, you are SOOOO overbearing… ha, ha.</p>
<p>Yea, I think we finally reached the “required” threshhold with her. She WILL be applying to Trinity this week.</p>
<p>John.</p>
<p>Mike, I am a seasoned veteran of message forums. I understand. But nowhere have I seen the hijacking that I see here. I don’t expect to be able to “control” them. Just like to “remind” them from time to time what the original question was.</p>
<p>(hint: it was NOT about “which” colleges were “better” or “worse” than TSU… 
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<p>John.</p>
<p>My older daughter is at a school that I asked her to add to her list. She rolled her eyes and told me it was in the middle no where and it’s cold (freezing actually). In my heart I felt it would be perfect for her - large, diversity because of the size, pre-professional (not overly intellectual, unlike Chicago), nice social scene to fit her style. As fate would have it, she ended up there and she is very happy. </p>
<p>Sometimes kids think they know what they want, but sometimes parents (who could tell what they want just by the way they cry or smile) may know them better than themselves. I do agree with alh, after all we have done for them, there is nothing wrong with parents having one choice. A lot could happen between now 'til May 1.</p>
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<p>For real???
A hijacked thread was recently moved to the elections forum.</p>
<p>Gee, maybe memory is short, but wasn’t it just the other day that a thread about “Gay Parents”, posted here in parents forum as a discussion of whether an applicant should mention this in a the application, possibly an essay and whether it was considered a hook or urm status was hijacked/redirected to a debate on the definiton of “parents” and general gay-bashing, such that it got moved/banished to the election and politics forum of cc? Hmm… who redirected that thread after over 40 pleasant and on-topic posts? Oh yeah-- it was LW. Wonder how the OP of that thread felt.</p>
<p>** cross posted with alh and also with pizzagirl above***</p>
<p>Alh, well I guess you got me there… although I did at least TRY to stay on point. </p>
<p>Just saying that the other sites I frequent are more focused. The discussion here seem to wander much more. But those are more technical sites. This one is (understandably so) full of emotion…</p>
<p>John.</p>
<p>Oldfort, I like that advice…</p>
<p>I guess if I had to say, Trinity would be the one I’d “choose” for her. It just feels like the right environment for her IMO. And after the discussion with the head of the Anthro. dept., I had a lot of confidence in it, and thought she would too…</p>
<p>I have NO IDEA why it’s like pulling teeth to get her to apply. Senioritis? </p>
<p>John.</p>
<p>And if you think people have been insulting to you in any way…</p>
<p>what if Amazon is, in fact, a woman in a lesbian relationship looking for advice on the college process?</p>
<p>But of course that is off topic here.</p>
<p>Unlike, for example, car or plumbing forums, these threads touch on the lives of posters, their families, their dreams, their disappointments their successes, their hardships, their likes, their dislikes, etc. It is informational ,educational and at times yes,emotional. Thats what draws people to this forum. Is it at times like hearding cats, and at times many have enjoyed the entertainment, popped a bowl of popcorn and pulled up a seat in the front row. </p>
<p>But I have to disagree with this statement in post #33
Its par for the course around here, as stream of consciousness and one persons insight/knowledge/information leads to another persons question. There are over 4000 views on this thread. Congrats. But each of those 4000 views may be looking for different things or benefitting from different information. More often than not the topic of conversation veers all over the place. So be it. If this thread was just about TSU, dollars to donuts it would have had 17 posts and died a long time ago (unless purposely bumped up)</p>
<p>Meandering conversations are one of CC’s greatest pleasures. I read another board which is exhaustively moderated: the mods are always splitting threads off into two or three or more subthreads, redirecting threads, closing threads when they go off-topic, and admonishing posters to strictly limit their responses to the OP. It isn’t anywhere near as much fun as CC, and I don’t learn anywhere near as much. If this thread hadn’t gone off-topic several times, future readers or lurkers whose kids may be investigating TSU and looking for other options wouldn’t have as much information to consider. </p>
<p>In almost 200 responses to this thread, there have been a good number of on-topic posts directly about TSU. What, specifically, do you still want to know, LW?</p>