Always available to help (as in be a sounding board, help think through the issue - never to do). This used to drive my daughter crazy. typical conversation would go like this: "Dad, can you help me with my algebra HW? Sure. After I read it I ask, “what don’t you understand?” She replies “all of it” and then the fun begins. “Be specific, what exactly don’t you understand?” Do you understand the question being asked? If not, what words don’t you understand? Well I , uh I just don’t get the concept. OK Explain the concept to me. (she does). What don’t you understand about it? DO you know how X works or Y works? Yes. OK, re read the question and tell me what it’s asking. Eventually she’d give up and just do her homework, She just wanted me to do it with her / for her and that was NEVER going to happen. She knocks it out all by herself now.
I still remember when I made an appointment to see D1’s 10th grade history teacher and he asked D1 why. D1 told me the teachers at school were always concerned whenever I made an appointment to see them. I didn’t do it often, but when I did it was over something serious.
When D2 was 5, a boy was giving her a hard time. She said to the boy, “I am going to have my mommy talk to you.” To her, the worst punishment from me was “I think we need to have a talk.”
My kids rarely ever asked me for help with their schoolwork. The only time I ever did was when their grades were slipping. The idea of me helping was enough to get them to do well. 
It also saved me a lot of money on tutoring, they never got tutored except for SAT/LSAT.
Has anyone shared this? https://www.ajc.com/blog/get-schooled/does-helicopter-parenting-give-kids-smoother-ride-success/FHjlf2eQclxdMeKriGJR1M/?utm_source=newspaper&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=7342273&ecmp=newspaper_email&
“We are stern parents, but we aren’t going to make our kids crazy. A friend once told me that a parent’s job is to get your kid into the state flagship school and anything beyond that is up to the kid. It is true.”
Wow. D17 didn’t even apply, she figured she’d be rejected and I doubt D20 will either. We are thinking she might get in to UCSC or Davis…
I have failed miserably by that measure.
“Has anyone shared this?”
The book in that article is the same one that’s discussed in the OP’s article so that info has been shared.
Right-but it’s not the same article.
One thing I learned by talking and observing other kids and their parents, a lot of it depends on one’s kid. No one right way. Only advice I can give is to ask yourself: Is this the right way for my kid and his character, knowing him the way I do? Often, I asked my kid: “If you were the parent, and you had a kid like yourself, how would you handle this situation, and why?”