<p>I am sorry to hear your news.</p>
<p>Here's a link to the Lance Armstrong Foundation, where you and your family can get excellent free information including one-on-one telephone counseling that you and others in your family can use. My friends who've had cancer have found this site invaluable. Lance</a> Armstrong Foundation: Cancer Support</p>
<p>Let's see....I have had 8 people in my family die of breast cancer, cancer in the pancreas, stomach cancer and lung cancer. 4 other people have been diagnosed with cancer but they have survived it.
I didn't know how to deal with death and I always felt like I had to throw up when I was around them. I felt horrible. I had these horrible night terrors. Its very hard to see your aunts or cousins or uncles dies within weeks of eachother. I still have problems with this because I loved them dearly but when I was smaller my mom used to tell me that they had become angels and were watching us and keeping us from harm. And thats how I like to think of it, that they are right behind me.
My dad was diagnosed with testicular cancer, very sad, but I hated him at the time, so I didnt really care, but now that our relationship is better I feel very nervous that the cancer might come back. When Im older because of the cancer history in my family the doctor has this plan for me and my siblings to have regular tests.
Cancer is a race, you must not let it get the better part of it.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope your dad gets well.
If you want to talk feel free to PM me.</p>
<p>Madden,
As a Mom who underwent treatment for Breast cancer last year while my son was a Junior in High School, the most important thing I can think of for you and your Dad is honesty. Also, touch and hugs go a long way (from your kids) in letting the parent feel that they are still "normal". Don't be afraid to hug your Dad and get him to laugh too. I loved the times when my son would watch Rob and Big on MTV with me and we could just laugh together, so find something like that.
Thinking of you and your family.</p>
<p>Thank you all for your support. My father came over today, and he almost did not act like anything was wrong. I did not mention it, but was a little nicer than I generally am to my parents. It was all good.</p>
<p>My father died of cancer when I was 2 1/2. It wasn't really in the family either, he was the isolated case I believe.</p>