<p>I just found out that my father has cancer. We don't know more until the doctors does more testes. I am kinda freaked out, but the worst part is, I can't even talk to him. I have this nervous reflex, that when I get scared or afraid, I start laughing uncontrolably. So, I was laughing, even when I know it was wrong, and if I laughed on the phone, he would have a break down.</p>
<p>So, how many of you have had a parent or loved one who has had/has cancer?</p>
<p>I am so sorry to hear about your father. Someone close to my family got stomach cancer, but through her good spirits, the prognosis seems good. When I first found out, I just hugged her and didn't talk about cancer. Just hug him, tell him you love him, and do activities together- like walking in the park. He's still the same man; you just need to provide love and a pair of ears, because it's rough. He's still your father. I wish you all the best!</p>
<p>Thanks. It is hard. I mean, he has put me through so much crap, then he was really starting to get better. In fact, yesterday was his one year sober day. But not this is happening. I almost feels like it is not fair, like he does not deserve it.</p>
<p>sorry to hear about that rmadden15. I really hope the doctors mistaked the diagnosis.</p>
<p>I want to think that, but he has been an avid smoker for like 20-25 years.</p>
<p>My dad was also a smoker, he had the will to quit though.</p>
<p>^ Why do you rub it in....jk.</p>
<p>lol, keep in mind, I loathe my father. My grandfather was an abusive drunk, so that pretty much sums up my dad.</p>
<p>Just make sure you don't carry on that gene.</p>
<p>Talk about getting to the point, lmao. Yeah, I know man. Same to you brother.</p>
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Yeah, it's hard. Cancer runs in the family so it's been knocking out a few of the people I love over the years. I really can't imagine it happening to my parents, though. I don't know what I would do, and if thinking about it is hard enough I can't imagine how you're feeling.</p>
<p>Alex</p>
<p>That really sucks man. My dad is in relatively good health, but I know what it's like to lose close family members. Hopefully things will work out for you and your dad.</p>
<p>Well my mom just got diagnosed with cancer in January and they removed her kidney in March and she is now cancer free. I was freaked out too except my mom didn't want to talk about it at all for a long time. I think you should wait a while before talking to him so you can think it over, I mean you're probably really overwhelmed. When you do talk to him don't focus on the cancer too much either. I hope everything turns out okay..</p>
<p>Best of luck to your father and the overall mood in your family.</p>
<p>I don't live with my father; I've never seen him before, infact, or more likely, I don't remember how he looks like - a divorce when I was...young. (probably the closest thing to anything personal I have ever revealed online, if this counts...not that I care)</p>
<p>My mom's not diagnosed with any major diseases but not in too good health either. I don't want to go on too much about cousins/aunts/uncles/grandparents, because that's way too...much.</p>
<p>GL again.</p>
<p>Thanks you all. And I am glad, caltennic92, that your mother is okay now.</p>
<p>I hope the best for your father and your family as well. My mom survived breast cancer and has been cancer-free for almost 5 years. She had to get half of her breast removed and go through chemo and radiation and the whole deal, but of course I was younger at the time and didn't know the seriousness. My grandpa has had lung cancer twice, but is still living. My dad has had alot of skin cancer but that has been removed. Also, my best friend's dad had liver cancer and was given one month to live, and now about 10 months later is finally cancer free. Plus my first cousin's wife had very serious kidney cancer, and would never have found it and would have died if it wasn't for her being pregnant with her third child (that's how they found the cancer). She is cancer-free and her daughter is 3 years old. Oh and my dog was put to sleep less than two years ago after she got really sick and we found out she had a GIANT mass in her abdomen that they suspected was cancer. Those are the closest people (and dog) to me that have had cancer. Except my dog of course, everyone is doing great now so that gives me hope for others as well :)</p>
<p>That is great, except for the dog part.</p>
<p>I had cancer three years ago. Won't go into details, but I love the "testes" typo.</p>
<p>My mom had brain cancer, but has been in remission for 12 years :) ...</p>
<p>I'm sorry to hear about your father-I sincerely hope that he will be okay. Good luck to him and the rest of your family!</p>
<p>rmadden15--I'm sorry to hear your news. You may be in for some very stressful times in the immediate future, but the survival rates for many types of cancer are excellent. My mother and mother-in-law both had cancer when they were young (in their 40's and 30's respectively) and both are in their 80's now.</p>
<p>Keep in mind that, as you go through the challenges ahead, it's a good idea to be open about your homefront situation with your teachers and school counselor. It's worthwhile to tell them what's going on now in case you need to ask for extensions on assignments (etc.) down the road.</p>
<p>Your academic focus could be torpedoed by your father's illness and you may be called upon to take on added responsibilities at home, so you'll get a least a bit of pressure relieved if those around you--including teachers and school administrators--are aware of what you're going through.</p>
<p>Best of luck to you and your family</p>