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<p>If you’re in the trenches and have a child applyiing to an Ivy, you should really have your studnet go to the Ivy forums and read the posts from last April 1st, where students posted their stats/ECs, then said if they were in or out. Some results were predictable - superstar in, 1980 SAT not in. But then there were all the others - very similar terrific stats, some in, some out. You’ve got to admire the optimism and courage of the kids who go for it.</p>
<p>Congrats to NMD & his D. They have a lot to be proud of!</p>
<p>I hope my kids greatest disappointment is being rejected by an Ivy.</p>
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<p>You can raise your D on opera, but at some point she’s going to want to go to a Milie Cyrus concert.</p>
<p>My message was not about the Ivies, but some have recognized, our kids can move beyond disappointment, believe in themselves and still excel. </p>
<p>A kid that lives in the midwest might aspire to attend the state flagship U. And maybe that kid has many friends heading to U. Mich (or Georgia, Florida etc. take your pick) . But if that kid got rejected, it will still hurt, the family will need to rally, support and move on. And maybe, just maybe, nice things will happen.</p>
<p>missypie, that cracks me up! My BIL once paid for us to go to a very fancy dinner. We let ds1 go with us; he was about 9 at the time. The waiters bring out the most wonderful cut of meat – like a filet mignon or something – and ds asks the waiter, “May I have ketchup, please?” :)</p>
<p>I am so thankful that my D does not attend a high school that considers kids who don’t get into the Ivys as ‘failed leaders.’ The moral of the story, for me, is not to let college define your self-image.</p>
<p>I am certainly impressed by the spectacular achievements of the OP’s D, but on hearing this story, I’m even more impressed by the posts hear of kids who were recently disappointed by QB decisions, but who seem to have survived with their egos and confidence intact.</p>
<p>It’s nice to hear about the accomplishment of OP’s D but to be honest…U of C is an extremely prestigious school. It’s not really saying much to be rejected by an Ivy and then “oh darn oh shucks” end up at U of C.<br>
Maybe a more inspiring post would be someone who goes to CC for two years, someone who worked for a couple years to afford school, someone who went to a less prestigious state school/etc. </p>
<p>To me, U of C still has all of the name brand prestige that Brown or Dartmouth or Cornell does…I don’t think most people differentiate. Maybe it doesn’t have the same bang as Yale or Harvard but it’s still one of those fancy shmancy privates that a select few smarty pants go to.</p>
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And again, the ball sails wide-right.
nmd’s post is not about UC vs Ivy league.
Keep hope alive, nmd. ;)</p>
<p>I completely agree with Calmom, post 58. My S applied to one ivy. He was rejected. Seriously, this is a big deal? The idea that this should in any way reflect on a student’s self worth when rejection rates at most of them are around 90% or less strikes me as very sad. Just my opinion.</p>
<p>Edit: Is it really just about disappointment? I kind of doubt it.</p>
<p>Well, after this last one …maybe hope should die. lol.</p>
<p>The OP’s point about regrouping and moving on after the hurt of that initial rejection is well taken. Those destined for success in life will continue to seek out and make the most of their opportunities - regardless of whether these happen at an Ivy setting or the flagship State U. That is the message I have been trying to get across to my high school senior D as well. She has said that she will cry a bit if her first choice (one of the HYPSM schools) rejects her, but has promised to move on to embrace other alternatives. I hope and pray for this sensible attitude to prevail come decision day, and will be ready with hugs etc. no matter what.</p>
<p>^curmudgeon
Following in the footsteps of Nietzche…now Hope is dead, too!! Well, after so many years and posts on CC you should know that there exists here no universal perspective and no objective truth.</p>
<p>Hey, it hurts to be the only kid from your HS rejected from U Conn or Binghamton or U Maryland (just to name three schools that are statistically harder to get into now than they were when we were all in college.) And those kids also need encouragement that their “Plan B” (nowhere near as glamorous as U Chicago) are viable plans for being successful in life.</p>
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<p>Like xig, I knew what nmd was saying but feared where this thread was heading. Hence my “no good deed ever goes unpunished” post. IOW, I felt the rumble of the imminent train wreck.</p>
<p>If a student’s family finds the need to “rally and move on” such a daunting task after their S/D’s college rejection, I just think too much has been invested in one particular school (or schools) from the get-go. But what do I know, my S turned down UofC for an even “lower ranked” school.</p>
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<p>While true that the overall message is not about the UC vs Ivy league, when the original poster states this:</p>
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<p>in the context of the huge disappointment about Ivy league rejections, it doesn’t really sound as a great endorsement of U of C (it’s just ‘OK’?).</p>
<p>So I can see where people would read that particular statement and feel that somehow the OP is suggesting that his D got stuck with some ‘booby prize’, less-than-stellar college admission, and had great success.</p>
<p>cur- sort of like me in the old Steve McNair thread…:)</p>
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<p>I think your posts are both ripe grapes.</p>
<p>LMAO if ur not first your last!</p>