<p>A really good girl friend of mine, (probably my best friend that's a girl) likes my best guy friend. No doubt that I've liked her for a while, but I don't know if she knows. Maybe she does? I honestly can't tell, but I know she's not clueless. Anyways, she's entrusted me to get my best friend and her together and I'm all for it. I'm just wondering if I should tell her how I feel before I get the plot rolling with those two. Just to clear the air up. That's it. Would that make things complicated for her? Is that selfish or anything? (And honestly deep down, I'm kinda hoping that she likes me back)</p>
<p>Not selfish. Keep it honest with her- otherwise, you’ll be resentful for not having told her and always wonder ‘what if’. Also, if you like her, I wouldn’t get involved with getting her with your best friend. I know it’s nice to be the bigger person and be neutral and a great friend, but it’s probably going to hurt you deep down :(</p>
<p>My best friend and her are both good friends too. Maybe I should’ve mentioned that xP. And it’s true that I would wonder “What if” but then again I could also make it uber awkward for her and we wouldn’t be great friends anymore. And that’s just counter productive and EXACTLY the opposite of what I want to happen.</p>
<p>Ah. Is there any way of subtle-y asking if she’s ever thought of you as more than a friend? Or like, trying to have a deep conversation and maybe bring up your relationship and if it could ever be more. Have you tried that?</p>
<p>Look at it this way, you have two options.</p>
<p>-One, you tell her you like her/keep pursuing her somehow, and hope for the best. (be warned, I feel the chances are slim she likes you that way). Unfortunatley, this has a good chance of resulting in you two becoming not so great friends anymore. It does still have that possibility of you two dating but…</p>
<p>-Two, you try to match up your two friends. This will maintain your great friendship with this girl… However, it means you will HAVE TO stop liking this girl. Otherwise, it’ll be absolute torture, and you won’t get anywhere.</p>
<p>Pretty much your options are: last ditch effort to get the girl, or maintain good friends but stop liking her.
Edit to add: If you try and match her up with your friend, it means that is likely the end of any possible relationship between you and this girl.</p>
<p>Note!: I think an important step is to see how your other guy friend feels about this girl. This way you can see if he is a factor in this at all.</p>
<p>No, see. I don’t want to go out with this girl nor do I want my confession to receive a positive reciprocation (Actually, it’d be cool if either of those happened). IF she likes me, awesome. But if not, I’m totally cool with it. I just want to simply tell her that I like her, then proceed with my plan about how to get her with my best friend. To me, admitting that I like her would just be clearing up the air (Hopefully). I want to admit it nonchalantly and make not a big deal out of it. </p>
<p>And he definitely likes her. That’s why I don’t wanna deny them. Like I said, I’m 100% for it. So back to my original question: Is my admitting that I like her make things complicated?</p>
<p>Hope that your best guy friend has romantic feelings for you and you could set up some kind of triangular arrangement.</p>
<p>You. Are. A. God.</p>
<p>Okay- then I wouldn’t say anything. I thought you <em>actually</em> liked her (as in, wanted to be her boyfriend) at the present moment- but if you just want to say it for the heck of it, then don’t. It doesn’t help anyone.</p>
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<p>LOL</p>
<p>10char.</p>
<p>So you like her sort of, but not really?</p>
<p>That’s… Odd. I just hope you’re telling the truth here (to yourself too), that you don’t really like her that much, and you wouldn’t feel bad if she was with someone else.</p>
<p>As Beautiful said, don’t say anything. It just complicates everything plus you might lose/have worse standing with two friends now.</p>
<p>Noooo!! DD: I DO like her! And it WOULD be awesome if we went out! But I don’t want to go out with at the expense of both of my friends. I was just thinking that since we were both good friends, I’d might as well tell her anyways. Especially since I’ve liked her waaaaay before my best friend did. I just want to tell her to get it out there though! DD:</p>
<p>And I’d feel terrible if she went with someone else. But it’s not just anyone else. It’s my best friend. </p>
<p>But I guess this IS feedback. So I guess telling her that I like her JUST to get it out there and off my chest is a bad thing? Even if I don’t necessarily want her as my gf? Now, note this, I only want her to NOT be my gf because they both like each other and they’re both my best friends and I don’t want to deny them. I’m just feeling that I’m too good of friends with her NOT to tell her. But If some random dude liked her, I’d tell her HOPING to God that she would like me back and we would go out. It’s all about the situation here.</p>
<p>Well, any way you look at it, telling her makes it more complicated, regardless of your intentions.</p>
<p>Here’s the thing, it seems like you like her to a good extent still. If you match your friends together, be prepared to forget about liking her. That’s all I’m pretty much saying. If you want them to be together, then don’t say anything. If you want you and her to be together, then say something/try to get her, but be prepared to possibly lose friends.</p>
<p>There doesn’t seem to be a point in saying anything just for the heck of it if you don’t have a defined plan.</p>
<p>she knows you like her. she is using you. if you dont wanna be used then go ahead and make things ‘clear’ which is technically unnecessary because she already knows it. if u feel happy about being important to her then do whatever she asks. a lasting friendship is actually more precious than a transient relationship</p>
<p>TCBH- That made my day :).</p>
<p>This was pretty fun to read x)</p>
<p>A pretty important, overlooked element is if your best friend has any interest in/feelings for the girl…</p>
<p>If you’re crush likes your best friend, sorry, you’re screwed. If you come onto her or ask her if she’s ever liked you, it’ll probably ruin the friendship. This is a really complex situation and your best bet is to either find a new crush or wait till your friends date and break up, then you can get the girl.</p>