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Inspired by chelsea465’s recent post, I thought I’d post some details of my daughter’s recruiting adventure. For privacy reasons, I won’t put everything on the public side of the forum, but I am open to sharing more via PM if people have specific questions.
I think her story is a good example of how a second-tier prospect can target a smart set of schools and come out with some very appealing options at the end. Her road was long (started back in Sophomore year, more on this later) and not without bumps and breakdowns (after she did not get any offers at 2017 SN meetings, I was seriously doubting our overall approach to things). But her story has a very happy ending: She ended up with a choice of offers from two great D1 schools and one Ivy, signed an NLI with one of the D1 programs, and recently received her official ED acceptance letter.
As a second-tier prospect, my daughter was not an “early commit”. TBH, I think those occurrences are reserved for both the very top prospects and those who just feel some perfect mutual connection with a school/coach/program early on. We are friendly with two kids in the class ahead of my daughter who were at or near the top of their year’s recruiting depth chart — and both of them advocated taking OVs before committing.
My daughter was invited on and took Official Visits to the two D1 schools remaining on her list. The Ivy was an interesting situation…it was a front runner early on, then fell off after the coaches declined to take a meeting at SLC. Their message to my daughter included a sentence to the effect of “we might reach out later”…but we didn’t put much stock in that. Well, lo and behold, while my D was on one of her OVs in the Fall of her Senior year, the Ivy coach reached out to her and offered her a slot. But we had all sort of moved by then.
The final decision was a very difficult one for my daughter. Both finalists felt like good fits but were different in many ways. Her experience on the OVs was great and either school could have offered an excellent education/fencing team experience. Until she told my wife and I her final decision, I truly thought she was going to choose the school she didn’t.
A few thoughts that I think aren’t redundant to what’s already been posted here before…some of which may be totally obvious. Humor me.
- For starters, keep in mind that the advice and information contained in this thread — while both plentiful and helpful — are just guidelines. This thread is arguably the best forum-based resource on college fencing available on the internet — but it is NOT a hard-and-fast blueprint for recruiting success. What works for some may not work for others. For parents, you know your kid and your family’s priorities and tolerances better than anyone…so use the thread to make informed choices based on what you know is right for your kid. As has been stated before, there are many ways of defining success and many paths to get there.
- Second, it is extremely important to have a realistic appraisal of your/your child’s strengths and weaknesses. Especially relative to that of the other recruits in his/her graduating class. Note that a given recruiting class COULD (and usually does) include fencers who are a year older chronologically but who, for one reason or another, are in the same grade as your kid. In my daughter’s weapon, there were quite a number of strong fencers who fit this description, but thankfully an almost equal number who were the same birth year, but a grade behind.
In the end, you are only competing for slots against the kids in your graduation year…but knowing how far down the depth chart you are is helpful to choosing what schools to visit, what coaches to nurture relationships with, and ultimately what programs to try and get recruited by. If your kid is a D-rated fencer with so-so grades and scores, aiming for one of the Ivy League national title contenders like Columbia or Princeton is probably not realistic.
I bring this up, because I think most parents (myself included) tend to be over-optimistic when targeting schools. I probably was too, in the beginning. It’s just sort of natural to think the most of our kids, and to want the best for them. But I think it’s important to make a distinction between “best” and “best for your kid”. What’s better? A school/fencing program where your kid is truly a good fit vs. one where he or she will be struggling both academically and on the strips?
I think using SAT or ACT scores isn’t a bad tool for thinking about academic fit, btw. The Ivies are going to want 700+ scores across the board. If hitting those numbers is going to be a struggle for your kid…if they are going to have to spend their entire summer tutoring for a single test…maybe an Ivy isn’t the best fit for your kid. And you know what…that’s absolutely fine. There are plenty of other programs out there.