This guy is obsessed with me...help

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<p>Ok, I got a letter in the mail from this guy, and he wrote 2 pages about how beautiful I am, and about how he is into medieval times, and how I am an "ideal medieval lady." He signed the note "Your Secret Admirer." He said that he goes to my church, and I am 98% sure that I know who it is. Lately, things have become unbearable! He stares me down when he walks by me at church after communion, and he sits by the church entrance just so that he can see me. It's making me REALLY uncomfortable, and I don't know what to do! I really don't want to have to talk to him...it would be really awkward for me. I am going to try and go to a different mass, but my Mom doesn't want to go to a different mass. I HAVE to go to church every week because my mom makes me.</p>

<p>Help me out guys, what should I do?!</p>

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<p>tell him he is annoying and you will never like him. it's harsh, but gets the job done.</p>

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<p>Tell him you're not interested?</p>

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<p>This is going to sound really bad/immature, but I really, really, really don't want to talk to him. I know that it pretty much my only option, but I really want to just avoid him.</p>

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<p>Just be straight with him, you're going to have to eventually...its like peeling a bandage...do it quick..and it might be painless...</p>

<p>Or
Leave him a note...If that works...</p>

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<p>I also had that problem but not with a guy at church. This guy was obsessed over me. He even shouted my out on Hot 97 with funk master flex(Thsi popular radio station in New York). Since you are going to have to see him every sunday, i suggest that you try to ignore him. But you can also do what Untilted said. It does work really it does. I told the guy that he does not let me breathe and he is annoying. Luckily, this guy graduates this year so I wont have to see him anymore.</p>

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This is going to sound really bad/immature, but I really, really, really don't want to talk to him. I know that it pretty much my only option, but I really want to just avoid him.

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Are you afraid of falling for his medieval charms?</p>

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<p>Lmao! I really don't like him, but the medieval thing really freaks me out. In the letter that he wrote me, he was like "in my mind, I am on one knee before you chivalrously kissing your hand." No joke....</p>

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<p>The medieval thing is kinda funny...I thought chivalry was dead...Buy him a copy of Don Quixote, and stick a note on it saying "The main character reminds me of you."</p>

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<p>^^ He actually compared himself to Don Quixote in the letter....lol.</p>

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<p>Fully deluded, I see. Maybe you should tell him you're already going out with Merlin or something.</p>

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<p>^^ You crack me up! Maybe I should write a letter and proclaim my love for you!</p>

<p>J/K!</p>

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<p>ROFL...that's pretty funny...(Who compares themselves with a crazy person!?!!?)...Um...scare him away? With The Book of the Courtier?
(Medieval people don't like the Renaissance Right?)</p>

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<p>Tell him you're more info scifi, and ask him if he has a lightsaber.</p>

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<p>Lol, tell him he has to joust his way to your heart!! ;)</p>

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<p>Lol. just tell him that he stinks or something. Hurt his feelings so he'll hate you and leave you alone.
Or, if you don't want to hurt his feelings, hust politely tellhim that you're not interested. And make it clear that you'll take legal action if he bothers you again (a restraining order).</p>

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<p>lol, medieval?
when that happened to me it was a renaissance guy.</p>

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<p>He probably doesn't realize that he is making you uncomfortable, for whatever reason. What you need to do is let him know this... and that you're not interested.</p>

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<p>LOL !</p>

<p>that's so creepy and nerdy. just tell him you already have a boyfriend</p>

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<p>Thanks guys! I'm going to avoid him this week by going to a different mass, but I'll eventually have to talk to him about it...eeks!</p>

<p>Nice advice Tyler!</p>