And some of us just worry about whether our kid knows how many Tide pods to put in a load.
When I would sometimes hear complaints about the time requirements by students (including one of my children), I would ask a question: “How many hours are there in a week?” Surprisingly this was sometimes a puzzling question, so I just broke it down: start with 24 x 7 (=168).
The most important part of the OP is the recognition that the core activities of a college student (lectures, labs, and homework) average about 50-60 hours per week. You would be left with 100+ hours per week. Then I would ask, suppose you devoted 8 hours a day to sleep, 1-2 hours to grooming/bathroom functions, 3 hours to meals. That would be about 90 hours. How many hours would then be left?
Add the 50-60 hours of core “work” (classes and homework) to the sleep-meals et al. and you still have 30 or more hours for everything else. Recreation (films, parties, clubs, sporting events, volunteering, taking a walk, hanging out, reading for pleasure, etc.).
Of course, not all weeks are equal. But if you have a plan (and a daily planner on your iphone or computer), you will do just fine.
I recall solving the world’s problems well into the night talking with friends- where has the idealism of our youth gone??? This plus those 8-9 hours for 2 credit chem labs and all of the other class work. It was so much easier to get involved with academic passions in college than in HS as well. Plus all of the activities available on a campus. I sure hope your D discovers the same joys we did in intellectual and silly fun with peers. So much learning goes on outside the classroom and academics. btw- we’ll never learn what our son did outside of his academics and running but he took classes for fun as well as related to his majors. Turned out all right.