At the moment I go to a small school called North Central College in Naperville 45 minutes out of Chicago. At this current school I dorm here, and let me tell you it has been a terrible time to say the least. The first roommate I had brought a guy who was accused of rp at his school to our dorm and left him alone with me while i was sleeping… and nothing happened to me yet, it was a terrifying and scary experience. After I switched roommates she talked crap about me behind my back to a ton of people and this effected me mentally very much! I no longer have any friends from my first trimester since some how she turned them all against me. She is quite popular and there are only 2,000 students here so its not hard to run into her time and time and receive dirty looks and rude comments which has not helped me want to stay here one bit. Now the current roommate I have she smells so bad the whole room smells disgusting like feet, and B.O and there have been times it was so bad I have slept in the hallway… I have been trying to get a single but the school keeps saying there are none. I no longer feel comfortable or safe here and even feel like I don’t belong. Then I finally found someone who i would be comfortable dorming with since everything that happened and the school told me no and gave no reason, and I asked why and they never told me. It makes me so upset and hate the school more that the many times I have tried to get help no one at this school has helped me at all. I am switching rooms again for the spring term that is happening in 3 weeks but Im terrified to get another roommate this year. People tell me to join clubs but I will not be able to be in a club if my ex roommate shows up and another thing is I have no friends here I have tried but once I lost those first term friends everyone became very cliquey and no one is welcoming. This school has literally has not made me happy once being here and I need some advice. I am finishing the year but i no longer have any motivation to do anything, i barely eat, and I’m just never happy. I have gone to a therapist about 15 times being here, and I just think i need a new start? what do you guys think? and if anyone who has ever transferred please share your experience. I have no motivation finishing the year but I know i should. My parents don’t want me to transfer i don’t know why… what do you guys think!!! please any advice!!
Why did you choose this college in the first place? What other options did you have then?
If you leave, where would you like to go?
Can you live at home and commute to a community college for a year or two?
What is your major?
If you are truly miserable, go speak with the counselor about taking a leave of absence at the end of the current quarter. You could go home and re-think everything. Maybe you would decide to return in the fall, or maybe you would come up with a different plan.
You are letting your ex roommate dictate your experience. Go to the clubs you want to and talk to who you want to.
Yes, you need to transfer.
What’s your GPA? What are your high school stats?
What’s your budget?
(Those will impact your ability to transfer)
Can you commute to a community college or a public university?
Look into deadlines quickly, some were Feb 15 and many are March 1 or 15.