I’m not sure what percentage of transfer students experience this, but I am seriously missing my original college. I went to Boston University my freshmen year and made the mistake of thinking I wanted to be closer to home and justified my decision to transfer to my home state school, Arizona State University, with the fact that my financial aid package was not enough to cover the cost of attendance, and I would have had to take out a couple grand to attend BU, whereas I could attend ASU and get a couple grand in a refund. Although I am a lot closer to home (I now live at home and commute), I know that I made a mistake in transferring here. I thought this would be what would make me happy, and for a long while it did, but a semester in and I’m realizing how much Boston University felt right.
I feel embarrassed to ask around too much about this because I felt that I was harshly judged for making the decision to give up the prestigious, private research university for a state school, and know that I would be ridiculed by so many if I said I wanted to go back.
All this aside, my BU GPA was not the best, and my fear is that if I apply to transfer back, I won’t get in, or just as bad, I will get in and won’t be offered enough to attend. I have heard a lot of stories about students transferring and being happier but I have yet to hear stories about transferring, realizing it was a mistake, and then transferring back. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do or if I should even be considering this?
Hey! I’m in a similar situation. I attended a university my freshman year for a particular major. I loved it, the professors were great, it was small and welcoming, students were cared about, and I made friends that I loved. I even cheered there. But I also had a terrible year, my mom got sick, diagnosed with breast cancer, my first pet and cat died, my boyfriend of 4 years and I broke up, my grandpa was hospitalized, twice, and to finish the year my grandma died in heart surgery leaving me one grandparent left. I was incredibly depressed that year for obvious reasons. I became antsy and decided I wanted to change my major and be closer to home. So I couldn’t take a semester off but I tried to study abroad oddly enough to take a break from the strict school settings. I then transferred to a much larger state school two hours closer to home. This school is overwhelmingly large, -and I just don’t feel at home here. My academics were perfect at my old school and I miss my friends. Here I am depressed and lonely as ever. I know this puts me two hours closer but now I feel like I could handle it better. Plus pretty much everything bad has already happened at this point. I miss my friends and how I felt at home there and although I will have only spent a semester at this new school I miss my old one and really want to go back because I feel like I left for all the wrong reasons. I feel like I was miserable my freshman year because it was an awful year for me in terms of personal home life, -'d I blamed my misery on my old school when in reality I was just depressed and struggling. I think about my old school every single day, my old classes, friends and professors. I think about going back all the time. I am currently a second semester sophomore. Any thoughts?