Transferring; Need Advice

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<p>So, to make a long story short, I'm a sophomore going to school across the country from where I grew up, and decided I'm unhappy and want to transfer to the university in my home state. I'm leaving this school after fall semester ends, in December. There's one sticky situation I need to figure out, though...</p>

<p>I have one roommate, and two other apartment-mates. We were all good friends last year and decided to live together. Because of conflicts I'm only truly close to my roommate now; the two other girls have been difficult to live with, but for the most part we still get along. We split a lease on our apartment four ways, and the lease lasts until the end of May. I'm planning to look for a subletter to cover at least some of the costs so that I'm not eating ALL of my share of the rent when I move out. If I can't find anyone to cover it I'm still leaving and I will still cover my rent, though if I don't find a subletter they're going to have to split utilities and such three ways instead of four.</p>

<p>My question is, when/how do I tell them I'm leaving? I haven't been happy at this school and my experience would get SO much worse if I was living with three people that were angry at/rude to me because they knew I was leaving soon. I just want to be able to keep my grades good so that I can transfer. My one roommate would likely still treat me okay (though it'd be really awkward), but given the recent conflicts I've had with the other two girls I feel like they would make my life very difficult if they found out I was leaving. So... What do I do?</p>

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<p>Since you seem to be firm on your decision you’re going to have to tell them eventually so maybe you should tell them sooner rather than later. Telling them sooner would allow them to start looking for a replacement roommate of their choosing. You can look for a person to sublet to but that person will need to get the approval of your roomies. Your roomies might be pretty perturbed if they discover you knew for quite a while that you were going to leave but didn’t inform them and thus limited their chances of finding an acceptable replacement roomie.</p>

<p>It seems that you’d be doing both your roomies a favor in telling them sooner rather than later and yourself as well since there’s a greater chance of finding a replacement which can reduce your costs.</p>

<p>It’s not all that unusual that one of 4 college roomies will decide to leave unexpectedly. It happens fairly often for all kinds of reasons including switching colleges, becoming ill, roomie conflicts, quitting college altogether, etc. They’ll likely get annoyed but will move on and find a resolution.</p>