Hello College Confidential. I am living in the Fraternity house this year, although when I recently arrived on campus, and moved into the house, I just don’t know if I can make it through the year living like this. The house is dirty, it’s hot, the rooms are small, and I just don’t even think I even have that much in common with the other people in the fraternity. I realize, after careful consideration, that I even feel like I am losing interest in the fraternity in general. I am sitting in my room, very upset right now, I don’t know what to do.
It sort of upsets me because, deep down, I knew that I wouldn’t love living here, but I tried to fool myself into thinking I would like it and sort of stuck my head in the sand. I know I need to change my attitude towards it and sort of accept the situation, but it’s just hard on me because I just don’t feel like I even have that much in common with a lot of the people in my fraternity. I’m not a huge partier, and I don’t know what to do. Sorry to rant a bit, I just am super upset right now and don’t know where to turn.
If you are a new student, did you have no other housing option besides the fraternity, and did you already pledge the fraternity before arriving on campus?
I’m a Sophomore. The people who rushed me and really got me to join the Fraternity, and who I really connected with and was good friends with, have graduated, which is part of the problem for me, I think. I had another option, and looking back, I can’t really remember why I didn’t take it, I think the location of where I am living now was better and I really didn’t think things through. Of course, in hindsight, I should have obviously just went into an apartment with this kid I was friendly with, but at time, with my upperclassmen friends still around, and me still interested in the fraternity, it wasn’t so simple.
It’s also hard on me because my roommate, who I do have things in common with, works a day-long job and is not around much, and I don’t know, I’m just in a rut right now, and it’s just hard to imagine me lasting the year in this living situation.
I could deactivate, but I don’t think I’m at this point yet. I’m just sort of arriving back on campus and realizing that a lot of the stuff that my fraternity brothers care about is stuff that I don’t care about, if that makes sense?