<p>austinmshauri: I don’t have the willpower to redo the credits that will be lost during the transfer. The only option I have right now is get a job. That’s what worries me the most. After getting the job, I might not have the motivation to go back to school especially if it means repeating the credits I lost.</p>
<p>blossom: So do you think it is a good idea to go in myself to ask for a meeting for the third case? While I am going to confess, I think I am going to bring my parents for moral support. Do you think it is a good idea? Also if you are saying to apply for jobs right now, wouldn’t they ask me why I am leaving college to do a job, especially in workplaces where I have already created a good rapport? How do I deal with my cultural community when this gets leaked out of campus?</p>
<p>Consolation: I am wondering if they are already considering my first two cases as three infractions, since the second case included two assignments. Perhaps instead of giving me expulsion, they are giving me 2 years suspension? And now that they will get aware of the third case, they will give me expulsion. But then again, when I went in for the university official meeting for the second case (submitting two assignments that belonged to someone else), the university official didn’t really mention anything about expulsion.</p>
<p>Your suspension isn’t your problem. Your possible expulsion isn’t your problem. Your loss of family members isn’t your problem. Your health isn’t your problem. Your real problem is your moral character. Let the consequences happen, but in the meantime, go to therapy to sort yourself out, rather than trying to escape the consequences of your bad choices. </p>
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<p>See, these are the things that make me question the ideals of society. I thought that whenever parents decide to have kids, they are mentally prepared to handle all the expenses of the kids. Why guilt trip your kids even more when they are already going feeling like a screw up? </p>
<p>Massmom: Please don’t comment if you have no alternative solution or an ease to my problems, and please don’t pretend that you have a very high moral character- I’m pretty sure you have made mistakes as well. The series of event of your life probably didn’t get you “caught” red handed. Should I also accept being constantly reminded for the rest of my life by my family and relatives about these mistakes I did in my college career? Do you think it is okay to be verbally abused and constantly get my morale down by other people? </p>
<p>Loststudent. I would strongly suggest that you take the next two years off from college. Try to get a job and think about what you did to get yourself in this situation. The reality is…you were dishonest on more than one…more than TWO occasions. Colleges frown on dishonesty…so do most people. </p>
<p>It’s time to reflect on what you did wrong. I agree with post 23. You need to get yourself turned around. Clearly, you didn’t learn from the first…or second incident. </p>
<p>If the school,allows you to complete your degree in two years, fine. Otherwise, finish elsewhere…but not until you realize that you need to clean up your cheating act.</p>
<p>I can see no reason why this school should reinstate you at this time. Not one reason.</p>
<p>If my kid had been caught cheating three (or four?) times at her college, I’d have been very, very disappointed, but I would still love her. Your family will still love you. </p>
<p>School isn’t going to be an option for a while, and frankly, your head isn’t in the right place anyway. The way it is going, there would soon be a fifth and then sixth incident. </p>
<p>Get a job and move on with your life, continue with counseling to help build up your moral stamina, and get the medical help you need to deal with your rheumatology issues. </p>
<p>School will still be there two years from now. </p>
<p>No one is verbally abusing you. People are giving you solid, reasonable, thought-out responses. You messed up, not once, not twice, but THREE times. You will be (most likely) expelled. Time now to move on, find a job, continue therapy, and go back to school if/when you’re ready. When your “community” asks about why you’re not in school, you could be honest (I made some serious mistakes and I got kicked out) or less forthright (I’m taking a break to work.) The first answer will likely shock people - at first - but it could show that you’re taking responsibility for your actions and trying to redeem yourself. Of course your parents will be disappointed. You can ease that disappointment by acting like an adult. </p>
<p>Your questions here indicate that you have learned little if anything from all this and are not accepting and owning the consequences of your actions. Instead you are asking posters for more ways to get around or beat the rap. You are trying to direct the conversation here, instructing posters to not give you the direct, honest feedback, as painful as it should and must be, that you need to hear. There are lots of students with multiple family stressors and personal problems who do not cheat. Multiple times. Agree with thumper. Use the 2 year suspension wisely. Get a job and turn things around. Start by taking ownership of the choices you make. Best of luck to you.</p>
<p>katliamom: I’m sorry if I didn’t make it clear. I don’t think any of these comments are verbally abusive. Some of you have been really helpful. The people who I actually know personally are verbally abusive. However, please all of you don’t waste your time pointing out the obvious, if you can’t give any more advice than finding a job, going to therapy, and going to a state school to finish my degree.</p>
<p>What do you want? Some slippery loophole? No. Own it and deal with it. Might feel differently if this had been a one time situation, and might be explainable by multiple extraneous factors. But multiple times, and then trying to slip out someones exam for a friend. Its all cheating. Period. What we can offer you is advice to take a hard look in the mirror.</p>
<p>jym626: The consensus on this forum says I should get a job. Who will give me a job in this forum? Will appreciate.</p>
<p>No one on this forum is hiring anyone. Use your intellect and skills to find a job. You are not the first person to be in this position. There is not an easy solution. Sweat equity.</p>
<p>jym626: That’s my point. Giving suggestions are easy but finding a job that is good enough to pay for rent, food, phone bill etc. is not going to be easy especially for someone in my position </p>
<p>You said upthread you were working out of town–follow up on your current jobs and see if they lead to more hours and any other options. Work with your college placement center to see if they may have leads. Good luck!</p>
<p>Look, thousands of students leave school, find jobs, and manage to make it work. Will it be easy? Probably not. But it is definitely doable.</p>
<p>You’re clearly smart. You may not be able to find the big bucks job, but I’d be very surprised if you aren’t able to find a job that manages to pay modest living expenses. </p>
<p>That is true. It probably will be hard to find a reasonably paying position. Thats hard enough for college grads seeking employment. It might require moving in with several roommates and looking at other ways to cute expenses. I wish my magic wand worked, but it doesn’t. You would be really fortunate if your college placement center would provide support under these difficult circumstances. Not wht you want to hear, but it is truthful. </p>
<p>We do not know our skill base so cant really help with job pointers. But agree that if you are currently worrking part time thats the place to start.</p>
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<p>Okay. This is the heart of the matter. Take this issue to your therapist. “Not going to be easy…for someone in my position.”</p>
<p>Because this is the thinking that got you into this mess to begin with and this is the thinking you are going to have to learn how to change. As an adult nothing is going to be easy and all adults are in this not easy position. Maybe they haven’t made it more difficult for themselves by looking for an easy way out like you have done. But, what you really need to do is to change the way you think about life. It’s really not “easy” for anyone, and looking for the easy way out isn’t working for you.</p>
<p>All that said, I’m sorry you find yourself up against such harsh consequences. Do you have drug and alcohol issues?</p>
<p>jym262: arabrab: So do you think it is a good idea to tell my former employer about honestly what I have done? This former employer was impressed with my work ethic and was were showing interest (written statements) in hiring me at a high position ONCE I graduate. I don’t know what his reaction will be.</p>
<p>Anyways, if anyone has a project coordinator positions available, then please privately message me. I have considerable work experience and scientific researches under my belt, along with a few certifications in techno-functional areas.</p>