<p>No- you tell your former employer you are taking a break from school and is he looking for more help? ANd if not can he refer you to a colleague who is? Where are you located?</p>
<p>poetgrl: No, I don’t have drug and alcohol issues. It goes against my spiritual beliefs.</p>
<p>jym626: Location isn’t necessary. Please advise the location of a job posting you have in mind.</p>
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<p>If any of us were hiring we wouldn’t hire you. No way, no how. You have shown a pattern of repeated dishonesty. To be caught so many times must only be the tip of a very large iceberg of undiscovered incidents.</p>
<p>I think you should be looking at training in some respectable manual occupation and working on that for a few years. If you are indeed intelligent and hardworking it could turn out quite well for you. Baker, plumber, those sort of things. But white collar responsibility, nope.</p>
<p>I don’t know why you would think something in the trades requires less honesty. White collar work doesn’t require “more” honesty or integrity. In fact, though, work in the trades might teach you integrity and honesty in a way work in white collar might not, simply because that kind of integrity is actually fundamental to trade work and success.</p>
<p>Either way, good luck. It’s not going to be easy, but it was never going to be easy, anyway.</p>
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aaaand cheating doesn’t?
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<p>Lost, what exactly do you want from us? We’re not going to tell you how to get out of your predicament at school. We’re not going to hire you. If you don’t find a job that will pay your rent and expenses, you will have to take on a second job. Rough? Yea. That’s life. </p>
<p>sorghum: Ok so you are one person who doesn’t want to give me a job. Even if you did hire me, I would quit because clearly you need to sort out your priorities as well. Also while baking a cake, I could put salt instead of sugar. Right? And that too because you think I will continue to be dishonest. If this kind of stigma is supposed to stick with me for the rest of my life, then I can just start building a makeshift house on the road and start living like a hobo. That’s what you would want of me right? </p>
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But your spiritual beliefs are okay with cheating multiple times? </p>
<p>Crossposted, but really the mind boggles.</p>
<p>Get a job. McDonalds, Construction. With your old boss. Whatever. Get some help for your self destructive behavior. I’m amazed the college didn’t expel you with cheating episode number two.</p>
<p>jazzcatastrophe: Yes, I am not perfect but I didn’t lose myself completely. And while we are at it, I haven’t killed anyone or committed any other crime possible. I just got overambitious, took many subjects, never took summer break, burned myself out, made mistakes and got caught. </p>
<p>mathmom: Please refer to post #49. Please keep your fingers crossed and make sure that none of your kids are busy getting expelled as well. Sorry if I said the truth.</p>
<p>I don’t think it’s sorghum that needs to sort out his/her priorities… </p>
<p>Or mathmom to face the truth…</p>
<p>LostStudent12, if you told us the whole story, you should expect to be expelled. It would be unusually merciful if the university were to only suspend you for two years.</p>
<p>Your attitude on this thread–self-pitying, evading responsibility for your actions, insulting to honest commenters–has not been impressive. It does give insight into how you got yourself into this fix.</p>
<p>You should work for the next two years at least. Be prepared for any future college (of good repute) to be wary of your integrity. </p>
<p>katliamom: romanigypsyeyes: honestly, do you guys hear yourself out? Basically, you are indicating that I don’t have enough integrity to do a “white collar job,” but at the same time you are indicating that integrity doesn’t matter in a job where I have to build houses or bake a cake or work at drive thru at McDonalds. Houses can crash and people die from eating cakes and burgers. However, since I have a degraded my standard, I am only worth it to still do TWO jobs, where in one I am baking poisonous cakes, building shaky houses, and serving deadly burgers. To not go insane with your crazy logic, I will CORRECTLY assume that ALL jobs need integrity. Yes, I have committed mistakes and for your information, I have OWNED up to my mistakes. If I didn’t own up to my mistakes, then maybe I wouldn’t be getting expelled and still be finishing my credits. And for all you sycophantic individuals out there, I had a conscience and that at the end of the day, I owned up to mistakes. However, I don’t believe that because of my four mistakes, I should be on the road and completely stripped of the rest of my achievements that I achieved with integrity. </p>
<p>I was struggling with depression and insomnia when I was in school, and wanted to drop my classes, because I was falling too far behind. ( I was seeing both a psychiatrist and a counselor at my college).
Then my **mother ** died after a short illness, (. during which my schoolwork continued o suffer cause I was traveling to the next city to visit her) and everyone ( my therapists) and myself, wrote up something to try and get a withdrawal, that wouldn’t Impact my GPA quite so harshly.
No go.</p>
<p>Schools don’t like to make exception, and it sounds like yours already has.
Accept you’ve hit bottom and try and redeem yourself by working to get yourself back where you are trustworthy.</p>
<p>Frankly, I wouldn’t buy a cake from you either. But at least with a job like that you have a chance of getting hired, and working your way up.</p>
<p>Nobody believes you ‘only’ made four mistakes - you were only caught four times.</p>
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<p>Yes, of course honesty is important to stay in any job and to do well and build a reputation, my only point was that in practice those hands-on occupations are the jobs people need to go to when nobody else will take a chance on them, e.g. just out of prison you are more likely to get hired making donuts than handling payroll.</p>
<p>emeraldkity4: I’m really sorry for your loss. I know how it feels to lose a loved one. Some things in our life completely change us, with no going back. Thank you for your input.</p>
<p>sorghum: Then, that just means that there is something very wrong with our school system that they can’t catch all the mistakes. It’s already decided that you don’t want to hire me or buy a cake made by me and let me apologize to not make myself capable to meet your expectations, as I am a natural offender. Let’s end it at that. </p>
<p>@sorghum I know. </p>
<p>the most successful in the trades need great integrity and honesty. But, that said, you can get a start in those businesses without a college degree. So, you are correct.</p>
<p>@Loststudent12 I don’t know why you are arguing with someone about this. You blew it. What you need to do now is to really “get” that. it’s not anybody else’s fault you blew it. And, it doesn’t have to define you for the rest of your life, either. Not at all. But it will if you continue to believe that it is somebody else’s responsibility to make this right.</p>
<p>Only you can make this right, and it will start out with small steps, and not with shortcuts or easy breaks. Sorry. </p>
<p>there is only one way to be successful at anything in life, and that is to work hard. Start now. </p>
<p>Oh, and people who cheat have a fear of failure that overrides their character. That fear will not serve you well. Everybody fails from time to time. What defines us is how we handle it when we do. You can change the way you are handling this, but you cannot change what you already did.</p>