<p>are kids at nyu really as unfriendly as people make them out to be?</p>
<p>it really depends... after all, friendliness of the students depends more on where they are from and their background, not the school as a whole?</p>
<p>From the other thread, I'm getting the sense that the social interaction isn't where it should be?</p>
<p>'from the other thread' is too vague for me to know what you're referring to...</p>
<p>I don't think NYU kids are unfriendly at all; the problem is that it's a big school with few traditions (and no football/basketball/etc to rally around). My sister goes to Dartmouth, and you will NOT get that experience at NYU of going 'wow, I really feel like an NYU student because I was forced to run around the bonfire'. The closest you will get will be complaining about Writing the Essay with fellow NYU students, so if you don't get a tight group of friends right away, it can be a little lonely. That said, if you've got any social skills, you'll be fine - just remember that you have to make a little bit of an effort because it isn't high school anymore, and you can't count on getting friends by simply seeing the same people everyday.</p>
<p>In a similar vein, please remember that the posts you read about NYU not being social are being written by people (who are only presumably actual/former NYU students) who are sitting on their computers instead of hanging out. They may not be the most representative of samples...</p>
<p>That's true Youk...I was referring to the thread "What DON'T you like about NYU?" I guess that's open to a voluntary response from people who don't like the social life or whatever.</p>
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that's true haha. thanks for the input.</p>
<p>not valid at all since school isn't in session...</p>
<p>why do you complain so much about NYU mattistole? like, you have so many negative things to say? is it just like how your situation ended up or is this common? that wasn't supposed to sound rude, sorry if it did.</p>
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i've seen this issue addressed in numerous places prior to now. when i went to visit nyu during the summer, the other kids i was visiting with seemed pretty normal and they were all chill and nice. since then i've had a hard time understanding how so many people have negative things about nyu social life. i mean i guess it could all change once one actually goes there... i also would like to know how your situation ended up like this?</p>
<p>it will shock you at how many students are unhappy at nyu. they just don't admit it to a lot of people. when I first started exploring transferring, about half my friends confessed they felt the same way. But a lot of people don't want to go through the process of making friends, and applying all over again.</p>
<p>Then there are some people who really really love nyu (and by nyu I mean nyc).</p>
<p>what situation? I am personally happy with NYU, but it does have a lot of problems, and you will constantly hear nearly every upper classmen complain about the issues I have addressed...it is not Me specific. The HS seniors on this bored have idiotic expectations and I'm trying to prevent you from making stupid uninformed deluded choices....</p>
<p>Well, I go to a college that seems to have the same problems is NYU (students who don't go out, spread out dorms). Obviously, what attracts me to NYU is Stern, but I'm trying to figure out what else about NYU attracts me. It seems like there is so much opportunities...meh...whatever.</p>
<p>Let me put it like this.</p>
<p>Going to NYU means living in the highest populated urban area in the country where there happens to be a college.</p>
<p>As opposed to going to Penn State in State College PA where the only reason the town exists is because there is a college.</p>
<p>If you want the 'college campus' feeling, NYU might not be the place for you.</p>
<p>"The HS seniors on this bored have idiotic expectations and I'm trying to prevent you from making stupid uninformed deluded choices...."</p>
<p>haha, you are too funny. i am a HS senior, and i want to attend NYU because i am in love with NYC. i hang out in NYC at least once a month, have many friends who live there, and am very accustomed [and addicted] to the NYC lifestyle. i definitely agree that a lot of people are attracted to NYU not because of the school itself, but because of NYC. i just think it's a very important thing to think about because if you do not like NYC, or are not a city person, there is no chance in hell you will enjoy yourself at NYU.</p>
<p>Everything people have said is true. There are good and bad things. And social life is great if you find your niche/connect with people you love and vibe with. Like, actual love and vibes, not fake "we're so cool" love and vibes. Freshman year you are helped out on the community front, although it isn't ideal. If you are seriously worried about it, I was on an explorations floor freshman year (see Res Ed website) and the community was excellent - we were like a family. For Tisch students also social life is rarely a problem since their classes require them to engage intimately with each other, so connections are made. NYU is really what you make of it. And if you're choosing to go there, it's for more than just a bunch of friendly people, so you'll make the social situation work for you if NYC is where you wana be.</p>
<p>I've had a lot of contact with NYU students. My experience is that NYU students fall into two camps. </p>
<p>Camp 1) Someone who is looking more for a very specialized "scene" that has much more to do with NYC than it has to do with NYU. If you're really into one ethnic group, a hipster type into a particular eclectic type of music, etc NYC seems to provide enough to make this type of person happy and the NYU community is large enough to find that niche.</p>
<p>Camp 2) People seduced by NYC but not really knowing what they are getting into. I've known scores of extremely unhappy NYU students who fall into this camp. NYC seems exciting, but in reality its not a college town and its a very intense, perhaps even lonely and unfriendly place. Also, there is very little student owned space (i.e. off campus houses, etc) so you run into people less socially. In my experience these students would be much better off with a real college experience (yes I said that) and going to NYU for grad school or working in NYC after college. </p>
<p>Without a doubt NYU is one of the most polarizing colleges in the country.</p>
<p>polarizing? Hilary Clinton is polarizing, but a school? What do you mean?</p>
<p>I mean people seem to really like it, or REALLY dislike the experience. One of my friends told me that going to NYU was the biggest mistake he's ever made, another transferred in from Penn and totally loved it. He was really into the club scene and found Philly stifling...</p>
<p>Seeing as how 2 of my cousins graduated from NYU and 1 of my cousins is currently attending, they have told me this.
my cousins were born and raised in NYC, they love it there and really enjoy nyu and the city.
the people who are always complaining about nyu and how it sucks and how its not social and how its so hard to find friends and how everyone is mean,evil,cold-hearted, whatever, are the people who grew up in small towns/suburbs who have always been around the same people since as long as they can remember, who have always had mommy and daddy there to take care of them, make decisions with them, and who have no idea what independence and diversity is all about. (lets face it suburbs and small towns don't exactly have the most diversity around. its usually either rich/poor/black/white/friendly/unfriendly but rarely all)
when coming to NYC these type of non-independent people who have been secluded to the same environment/community since day one, except it to be the same as it is back home (in Alabama for example.) or expect it to be what they see on tv on friends, seinfeld, sex and the city.
these are the kind of people when arriving and spending time in NYC, come to the big reality check that its not what they expected it to be, they become anti-social, they become unfriendly, and they decide to roam CC during the day/night instead of going out meeting new people or hanging out with friends. so the people you encounter here on CC are usually from only one side of the spectrum (the anti-social disillusioned people who come to NYU expecting everyone to immediately become friends with them and talk to them with no effort whatsoever, or the ones who come from families/communities where everything was handed to them in their hands and never had to do anything for themselves)
REALITY CHECK. this is NYC the most independent city in the world. the city that never sleeps. the city that is busy working 24/7. this city is not for the faint-hearted. "if you can make it here you can make it anywhere."
so if you are the small town type coming to NYC their will be a huge CULTURE SHOCK. NYC is like a world of its own. people do seem to get overwhelmed by the difference of NYC and their respective hometown.
if you want to make it here in NYU you must put an effort to go out and meet people, introduce yourself to classmates, take that 5 seconds to compliment the girl walking past you that you love her hair/outfit. take that extra step and make the extra effort to be noticed and make new friends. after all this city does have 8 million residents, which during the day can rise to 10 million people counting commuters into the city, you must make the effort to stand out of the crowd. to stand out of the 20,000 undergrads at nyu.</p>
<p>so what is the point im trying to get across here?
LISTEN TO THE SPEAKERS OF THE NYU OPEN HOUSE/WEBSITE WHEN THEY SPECIFICALLY STATE, "NYU IS NOT FOR EVERYONE".</p>
<p>its NOT. lets face it. you have to be a mature teen/adult to survive here. you have to be somewhat outgoing/social. don't expect everything/everyone to just come your way with no effort. </p>
<p>those who have no independence, who don't make the extra effort to meet people, are the unhappy ones at NYU who have nothing better to do than to just sit around lurking these forums for more opportunities to just blame the school, when in reality, the problem is themselves.</p>
<p>If you dont like the NYC lifestyle, THEN DONT GO TO NYU.
There are no frats/sororities here, there are no big game nights or football games. NYU is not what you see on tv/movies.</p>
<p>if this isnt what you want, then go to a smaller school in the middle of nowhere. just so it can be highschool all over again right. isnt that what you complainers want?</p>
<p>Meh, but meeting people really isn't that hard. Even if you don't live in a dorm, small classes and recitations normally let you meet a few interesting people you strike up conversations with and end up befriending. As long as you're willing to say "hi" to the person sitting next to you, you'll find people being friendly to you in return.</p>