<p>OK, I am leaving in a few minutes, so I am starting another thread possibly. Thank you for your input.</p>
<p>Are you sure this is a college? This sounds like the immature crap that occurs in high school.</p>
<p>I'm pretty sure that I am attending a major state university. Please comment in my new thread, as we are now several pages long here.</p>
<p>Bio, I have emailed a friend who is an advocate for kids within the full spectrum of autism. Her daughter is a brilliant Asperger's musician. We will try to find you avenues of assistance.</p>
<p>I really caution those who are not familiar wth the issues here to think about asking simplistic questions like what people find to be the problem. This is a spectrum that involves many behaviors and actions those not familiar would find offensive or scary. That said, there is so much that can be done to gain a normal lfe, and in many cases, a gifted and blessed one.</p>
<p>Zagat, that is why I think this whole business is inappropriate and even potentially dangerous, mostly to the OP, on a public forum.</p>
<p>Agreed. Having a brother with a debilitating mental illness, I can assure bluealien that the inability to read social cues is a devastating part of mental illness. This is a problem that might be helped by professional therapy but most definitely will NOT be helped by further posting on CC. bio needs real contact with real people and real professionals.</p>
<p>Then the moderators should lock his threads or he should stop posting again and again. But I still have no clue (and another poster also apparently didn't) what asking someone out has to do with kids turning him into the dean. This whole situation makes no sense and bio keeps saying that his psychiatrist, counselors, etc. are not helping him, so perhaps that is why he keeps posting here.</p>
<p>That's right. All my psychiatrist does is say that I need a "change in environment" aka drop out of engineering school. This of course will destroy my dream of being a professional engineer. My college counselors will not advocate for me as promised, and will not do anything except talk and talk in order to bill me for it. I will probably stop posting after today, unless anything happens, and find other forms of help. Thank you for your assistance, parents.</p>
<p>I do not want any more discussion in this thread, as I feel it will be against my best interests. Thank you for your comments, I will talk about them with my parents.</p>
<p>bluealien, we may not be seeing all there is to see in this situation. Bio may not really be able to say what it is that he does that makes other students nervous. </p>
<p>If you re-read some of his posts here on the parents' board, there are clues that there may be more to it than he says or realizes. He posted several questions about what to say to a girl about her major, her future plans, asked us why she would want to pursue certain areas of study. He also posted about picking up a book that a girl had left behind and her overreaction when he returned it to her. </p>
<p>It doesn't take much imagination to see that if these are all the same girl mentioned again in the above posts, she could feel threatened, or that he was stalking her. </p>
<p>Even if they are all different girls, if he is acting in a manner that makes the girls feel threatened [even though it is completely inadvertent on his part], you can see why other students might want to get involved, if they think they are somehow "protecting" their friends from a "threat."</p>
<p>No one here knows for certain what the counselor, the dean, the other students, or Bio's parents are saying or doing. We have only his perception and report of their words and actions. Bio's self-perception is not very reliable; notice the times he gets frustrated and describes himself as "retarded," even though he posts frequently that he has the highest GPA in his program.</p>
<p>He has also accused parents here of "not helping" him, of telling him that he will never be able to live on his own, never be able to get a job, have to go live in a group home, etc., even though no one here has ever said anything like that. These are all the same things that he says his parents, counselors, and psychiatrist have said to him. How do any of us know for sure what is really going on? Bio does not always seem to be sure himself.</p>
<p>One thread in which he asked about receiving an invitation to apply for a summer internship in civil engineering was followed almost immediately by another one in which he stated that he had an internship for the summer. I believe these threads were only a day or so apart. </p>
<p>After the last thread Bio posted about his depression, I had decided not to post on his threads again because I don't feel this is productive for him. I am posting this in hopes that you will see that Bio's answers to your questions may not be the entire story.</p>
<p>Bio, if you are reading this, I hope you will be able to find a counselor/coach/psychiatrist/advocate who can help you. I think you will eventually have to submit your trust to someone and follow his/her advice and counsel if you are going to reach the success you long for. </p>
<p>I wish you the best.</p>
<p>Fine. But if other people truly are not helping him, then as I suggested, he should go to his academic advisor. Maybe a mod. should lock these threads now or something. But of course, this kid, will be back tomorrow, ya know?</p>
<p>blue; Are you a student? I know you are trying to be helpful but bio needs professional help, he is getting professional help. As he has a significant disability, it is terribly unwise to encourage him to go against his family or his medical advisors. This is a problem far far beyond the scope of an academic advisor.</p>
<p>I agree the mods should at least limit his posting.</p>
<p>Cheers, I completely agree with you and have actually asked the moderators to step in. No one who understand Aspergers would suggest posting responses to help an individual with Aspergers in a context like this. Bioengineer clearly is going through a phase in his life when he needs help with decision making and an array of other issues. and the best we can do is point him towards someone with whom he can do this in person...</p>